She's Back In The Hospital Again.

[Janet]

From what they are saying if it the diveticulitis....it can bleed like the dickens and then stop and they would not be able to figure out where it's coming from if it's not bleeding...I just don't know why they won't go in while she's bleeding. I'm so tired of all this crap...the ups and downs and worries. Mom being sad and crying and then today....she is being a real butt now that she has had two units of blood yesterday. Feeling better and wanting to eat, buy they have her on a full liquid diet. Hopefully the Dr. will be in soon and change that to mech. soft or normal. She was so hungry/mad that she was crying and now won't eat. If she can't have what she wants...she's not eating.

I want to go home during this storm....but if I was home....I know I would worry about her being here. Just don't know what to do......I'm beginning to get really angry myself.

[DianaB]

Tough situation but you know that you'd want to be with your Mom. Hopefully they'll get her some food and she'll settle down. You probably need to remind her that they're only doing things for her own good. Hugs!!!

[Janet]

They finally let Mom have normal food again. She is being nice again and not so trying AND she apologized. Wonders never cease do they... The Dr. came in and said that it's just too dangerous for people with heart failure to go under and (excuse me) up the rectum. Is that true Gayle? They did the sigmoidoscopy and didn't find anything last week and went 'up'. I just don't even know what to ask anymore and it's even worse when I can't remember exactly what they tell me.

[gja1000]

Well, I'm not sure what they propose to do since they (ahem) went "up" last week. It is true that anesthesia is not good for people with heart failure - but they've got to do something to find out how to stop the bleeding. Ask him if they can't do THAT, what CAN they do to find out what is causing the bleeding?????

[DianaB]

I hope the doctors can find what's causing the bleeding. She surely can't go on like she has been. That's a big concern!!

[JJJ]

My grandma was in her late 80's and they perform an endoscope procedure on her. I think if they have a good anesthisiologist, and a good gastrointestinal surgeon she should be good to go. Maybe you need a second opinion to see if they can perform the colonoscopy or sigmoidoscopy. They must not be to worry if they can't find a solution. Hopefully they won't plan on doing those procedures when she's too weak to handle them

So sorry your going through this, but I agree with Gayle they have to find a way to stop the bleeding.

[Janet]

They've already performed the colonoscopy and sigmoidoscopy and didn't find anything. With all that is wrong....kidney failure and heart failure...they just don't have many more options to try I guess.

[gja1000]

Janet, are you home yet?

[Janet]

Yes...I'm so sorry. I came home on Thursday and Mom is with us. She did not want to go back to the nursing home. She was only there for 4 days, but didn't sleep a night. So...we have all her things here. She has slept both nights really well and eating better too. Mom has to use a walker because she is still weak and wobbley. She's getting better at handling it.

It's been easier for me to hook her up at night too...she can no longer do it herself until her strength is built back up. The home nurse came Friday and did a thorough visit. The physical therapist is coming next week. So far...just a couple days...it's been easier on me and I'm sleeping better. She still wants to go home and as soon as the weather is good and the sidewalks clear...I will take her home to visit her house. She misses it terribly, but knows she can't live alone. I will do my best for her and she knows it, but when it gets to be too much then she knows what will need to be done. I've made it very clear without making it a threat. I love my Mom and I've really enjoyed growing closer to her.

[paula1961]

Janet I'm so glad your Mom is with you. I know how hard this is for her and for you as well. I think about you often and I say a little prayer for you and your Mom. I know how much you love her. I'm sure you remember the last several months that my Dad was with us, we stayed the whole time with him and Mom.
I hope that your Mom gets stronger soon and is able to at least go and visit her house. But for now, she is so much better off being there with you.

[Blueyes]

Janet, I just got a chance to get online to check on you. My wireless router croaked and I couldn't get to town for another one because of the weather.

I'm glad your mom is with you and you are both comfortable. I begged to bring my mom home with me after her stroke, but she needed medical care that I just couldn't supply. So I spent LOTS of time at the nursing home every day. I know it's a crazy, stressful time for you. Just hang in there! Love ya

[gja1000]

Janet, I know it is so much easier with your mom at your house. I'm glad she is there. You ask for help though, when you need it. Don't try to do everything yourself!