Prayers for my Dad

[2tiredmom]

Thanks again ladies. Janet. I have all the paper work. We did all the paper work before my mom died back in 2006. I am the one that had it all done and paid for it. All the medical papers and poa. My brother is on all of it too.
Gayle I am the one that talked to all of the people the first time he went in and this time too. So they know me and they have my numbers. They just made excuses as to why they didn't call me.
I made noise so there better not be anymore problems but I won't hold my breath either. They just kept passing the buck. I just can't get down there unless they give me a few hours notice since I live 2 1/2 hours away.

[Janet]

Since your brother is on the paperwork too, how does that work? You both can make the decisions? What if you don't agree? I didn't mean to be nosey, but with me and my two brothers, it would have been to hard to come to an agreement so Mom left me in charge of all of it.

The advice you rec'd from the others was right on. Make sure they know you are on top of things and won't put up with excuses. If things don't work out there at Clinton House, Mulberry has a great place for people suffering from dementia. You can always switch if they have room.

You're in my thoughts and prayers Linda!

[DianaB]

I agree with Janet. If the NH isn't going to let you know in advance of appointments and what's going on then I would check into another one. There's no reason to send out an ambulance to go to an appointment when all they needed to do was let the family know in advance. Let them know that if something like that happens again that you'll be moving him......that you EXPECT communication with you or your brother!!!!

[2tiredmom]

ok I give up. They had my dad to the ER twice in 24 hrs. Come to find out he fell.
I am calling tomorrow to talk to the director of nursing. I wish i lived closer but i don't i am sure i will get the runaround and if i do we will make sure he gets to go somewhere else.2012 is really starting to SUCK. Sorry. there i go again.

[Blueyes]

I'm so sorry he fell. How is he? In Texas, all falls have to be reported to the family, no matter how minor. You can also sign something that says they can't take them to the hospital without your permission.

Janet, on my parents MPOA, I made the decisions unless I wasn't able to be reached, then my brother did it. We were both on the papers.

[Janet]

I wondered how that worked....thanks Betsi.

Linda...Mulberry is so much better than Clinton House, plus, it's closer to the Lafayette Hospitals. It's always ones personal preference, but Clinton House wasn't even on our list to choose from. I don't mean that to be rude, but it's not one of the better ones. We did have Mom in Milner's at Rossville for about a week before she was sent to the hospital and passed and I've regretted it ever since. She rec'd much better, compassionate care at Mulberry.

[DianaB]

I hope you're able to accomplish something when you call, Linda. I would be so upset too. I think that I'd be checking into moving him.