That Karlie.......

[DianaB]

Believe me I've tried. We have a wonderful man at the school that is a couselor and I've tried and tried to get Dae Lynn to take her to him. She's even talked to him about talking to Karlie. I mentioned it again when all of this happened but she ignores me. I agree that it needs to be taken care of now instead of later. It could be because of all that is going on with her family or something else but whatever he could help her with it. I'm so fustrated at Dae Lynn for not taking her to him. There's only so much that I can do.......

[Janet]

Not sure how it is at the schools there, but here....I would go independent. Seems like schools are always wanting to label the kids. I didn't want that for Ricky so I took him to a specialist and had him tested and evaluated. That way the school has no control whatsoever. They can put them in special classes and I thought that would be detrimental to Ricky. You could even speak with her pediatrician and ask for his advice and/or referrals.

[JJJ]

Diana, another thing to remember is that sometimes the mother thinks it's their fault and are ashamed to show a professional their kids. Thinking their the ones to blame.

[Tiramisu]

Slap me, but I think it was a normal kid thing ... not sorry! And, I'll shut my mouth NOW!

[gja1000]

Originally Posted by Tiramisu

Slap me, but I think it was a normal kid thing ... not sorry! And, I'll shut my mouth NOW!

You are right Sandy, it could be a totally normal kid thing, but then again, there seems to be a pattern.

[DianaB]

I know that it seems that way but you're not with her on a day-to-day basis. In trouble a lot and saying things to hurt people.......It's just not a good pattern.

The school counselor is a Christian man and I know that he'd do a good job of talking to her. I mentioned it to Dae Lynn again last night and she said that she's talked to him and he's going to talk to Karlie. Whew!!! I'm so glad.

As far as Karlie being labeled I think that she's already on her way to doing that herself so I see getting some help, even if it is from the school, a good thing. We can always go independent if things don't work out.

According to Damon, after Karlie was born her real mother didn't have anything to do with her. It makes me wonder about the bonding issue. Damon said that she was in her crib when he went to work and was there when he got home......and somehow Damon ended up with her after the divorce. Plus, she's not seen her for probably two years or so nor does she call or have any contact. It's never talked about her having another mother and we're not sure if she even remembers her but last summer she did talk to me about having another mother.......and a brother, which she does have. The brother was taken away from the mother and the grandparents adopted him.

[gja1000]

Diana, I didn't realize all this history. I think definitely, she needs counseling now, rather than later. She doesn't know it now, but she is very very lucky to have Dae Lynn, you and Glen.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by Tiramisu

Slap me, but I think it was a normal kid thing ... not sorry! And, I'll shut my mouth NOW!

I've laughed over this comment all weekend long, Sandy!! No hurt feelings over what you said!!

It does sound like a "normal" kid!!!

I feel so sorry for Karlie because she's in trouble A LOT. Personally, I think that Dae Lynn needs to ease up on her. I try to remind her that she IS a five year old......almost 6! I think that Dae Lynn needs to spend some time with other families that have children the same age and see what they are dealing with!! We went out to eat a couple of weeks ago with a family and realized that Karlie and Dean are just regular kids!! I think that applies.....except for the lying and manipulation that Karlie does.

[judy]

It is so hard to watch our adult children and keep our mouths shut! It is great that Dae Lynn is getting Karlie to talk with the school counselor.

As far as Dae Lynn being too hard on her, it must be so difficult to raise a child who did not come to her as an infant, and who started out deprived of nurturing. Karlie is a lucky little girl she has all of you. I'm sure she knows Dae Lynn loves her, and that is more important than anything.

[DianaB]

We all love Karlie!! She can be the sweetest .........most fustrating little girl!!! LOL.....Isn't that a contridiction? But, sooo Karlie!!!!