Plans For Easter?

[DIANE W]

Judy.... I am really glad things got sorted out with Jessie, it is awful when families fall out, I know only too well. We dont have anything to do with My husbands Mum and Dad, we had a fall out and i dont think it can be fixed ever. We have realised that these things happen, they have always treated hubby different from his sister, and he has just had enough, despite it always being us that were there for them all these years, it is her that can do no wrong.
I feel very upset for him and also my daughter, but even if this issue was fixed, it would only be a matter of time before another problem occured - it has been like this for the 30 years i have known this family.
I think they are lovely people, everyone thinks they are wonderful..... but if only they knew what their behaviour did to their son, they cant see it, they blame him.

Your new addition looks a little doll, i hope she settles in with your other dogs quickly, she is adorable.

[judy]

That's too bad about your hubby's family Diana!

Life is strange....sometimes families don't speak for years, and then just make up. You just never know!

[DIANE W]

It is an awful situation, but there comes a time that you just have to say enough..... you have to think about yourself and how that relationship affects you, and we decided it is just not worth all the heartache anymore.

I think its a shame, life is too short for falling out, but sometimes its not fair for you to keep on putting up with things.

I am not ruling out a making up, for the future, i would always forgive them, but hubby, i am not too sure, he is much more hurt than me as its his parents.

[Janet]

I really hope that things can be worked out. It's so crazy but this morning I had a good cry because I miss my brothers. Of course I could call them, but I know they don't want to hear from me, otherwise they'd call. It's okay I guess, as long as they are good and happy.

Maybe once Mom's estate is totally settled and some more time passes, they open their hearts a little more. Without knowing what happened between your husband and his parents, I hope enough time will pass that they can reconcile. We need family.

[DianaB]

Jessie, it is nice to hear about your boys. You don't mention them much.

Diane, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's family. It is hard, I'm sure, especially around the holidays. It's hard to resolve when there is hurt feelings. Hugs to your family.

I mentioned on another thread what we ended up doing. Cleaning on Friday....Picnic with Glen's family on Saturday.......The kids, grandkids, Mom, and step-dad here on Sunday. My brother and his daughter with her two kids didn't come and greatly disappointed my Mom. I felt so sorry for her.

[DIANE W]

Originally Posted by Janet

I really hope that things can be worked out. It's so crazy but this morning I had a good cry because I miss my brothers. Of course I could call them, but I know they don't want to hear from me, otherwise they'd call. It's okay I guess, as long as they are good and happy.

Maybe once Mom's estate is totally settled and some more time passes, they open their hearts a little more. Without knowing what happened between your husband and his parents, I hope enough time will pass that they can reconcile. We need family.

Do you know Janet, it wasnt that there was a terrible thing happen, its just a drip drip drip of petty rows over the years, we have always been there for them, done whatever they have asked of us at the drop of a hat, been at their beck and call really. But the last fall out just sort of made my husband realise that unless we back away, we are always going to be going through this cr-p with them.
So for our own sakes and peace we have made this difficult decision, who know if they come around and accept what they are like with him..... then who knows in the future? but as i have already said, we have to take care of ourselves now, we cant keep going through all the arguments anymore, each one seems to get bigger, because they bring up the last one as well.
I feel for my husband so much, because they have proved they dont care about their son and his feelings.............and that is just not right, i would never let anything come between my daughter.
So although we are sad it came to this, at least we have peace now.

[Janet]

I sure know about the drip...drip...drip part. After awhile it just gets to you, I know. Sometimes space is best. I'm pretty sure I'll neverbe close to my brothers again, I won't let them have a chance to hurt me anymore, but it would still be nice to speak with them once in awhile....without their wives or family.

We all have to do what is best for our own family and well being.

[judy]

This is why I no longer speak to my stepmother and her children. The drip drip drip...it is very toxic!

I do want to go see my stepmother though. She is 95 or 96, and I try to never have regrets in my life. We did have our good times, and she was very good to my Dad.