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Old 04-21-2012, 11:02 AM   #1
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That's interesting to find out, judy.

The price of nursing home care is quite a worry for all of us. I agree with dying quickly so there's not a lot of expenses at the end of life. I would hate for Glen to lose the farm and our home.
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Old 04-23-2012, 01:26 AM   #2
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That's what I have been looking in to...long term insurance. It's cheaper the younger you are when you get it..of course you pay for it longer, in theory.
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Old 04-23-2012, 02:40 PM   #3
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Re: long term care insurance - if you are younger (and I don't know at what age) it is better to start some sort of savings account for long term care, rather than paying the long term care premiums because you have long enough to save the amount you would need for long term care, and if you DON'T need long term care when you get older, then your family can get that money when you die. But if you are older and can afford the premiums which are pretty pricey when you are older, then it is OK because you probably won't pay in as much as you would use if you needed long term care.

Does that make sense?
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Old 04-23-2012, 05:28 PM   #4
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Let me tell you from experience!

Most of you know that my mom has been in a nursing home for almost 4 yrs now , started out in the health section where she was completely dependent on the staff for everything, after much improvement she moved to assisted living for almost 2 yrs and has recently moved back to the health side, she is having trouble with everyday needs and caring for herself.

Going back a few years….my brother bought the home that we were raised in, yes it had to be within 5yrs of mom going into the NH, and also at a price that was fair market value of what the house was worth. Thank goodness he still owns the house even though he lives in California, the house is mainly being used for storage right now, but it is nice to be able to go there when things start piling up on me.

Back to mom and the NH…..the house was paid for, so the price my brother paid for the house was essentially cash in the bank for mom, she also has my dads retirement from Delco/Delphi where he retired after 30+ yrs so it was a fair amount ( my dad passed in 2004) all was left to my mom. Mom should have been able to live a fairly comfortable life for several years, except after taking care of my dad till he passed, her health went down very quickly.

To answer some of the questions on the cost of living in a NH, it is so expensive, when mom first went in the NH it was nothing for me to write a check for close to 10K a month (I am my moms POA) depending on her health and what meds she needed that month, insurance covered some of her meds but not all and the rest and cost of NH was paid out of pocket and still is for now. When mom moved to AL the cost went down to around 4-6 thousand a month, again this is all out of pocket, by now the money from the house is gone, we are now spending dads retirement. Mom has recently moved back to the health side and the price has jumped back up to almost 7K a month, at this price it won’t be long and my mom will be penny less and will have to move again to the Medicare side which will break my heart to think that everything that my mom and dad worked all their lives for is gone to a NH. The health system sucks, my mom tried very hard to make sure us kids were not burdened with having to care for her needs when her time came, she paid for her funeral and hoped she would be able to leave us with a small inheritance.
Now by no means does mom live in the most expensive NH around here.

I hate that mom lives in a NH but I know she is getting the care that she needs, more than I could have given her. I miss my mom so much, even though I am still able to talk to her, touch her and see her I still miss her so much and I love her no matter what.

Also for long term insurance, I have this through where I work, have paid into it for many years now, it is my understanding that after I reach a certain age I will no longer be eligible for it and everything I have paid into it will just be gone. I guess I really need to look into it more. As you say Gayle, it probably is better to just put that money in a shoe box and save it for my kids. Thought i was doing the right thing by having it. I also have Aflac which i rarely use it either, but sure as heck if i didn't have either i would need it. Would love to have all the money that i have paid into ins premiums and have hardly used it.

Again the health care system sucks, and I agree that I would rather go quickly.
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Old 04-24-2012, 04:37 AM   #5
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Lynne,

I'm sorry your Mom has all of these health issues! NH care is so crazy! If you aren't very wealthy, you are so out of luck!

My aunt lives in a beautiful place, where you go from one phase to another, depending on your health. My uncle left her lots of money though. My stepmother also has this advantage.

I will have to just wing it. I am only hoping to leave something for my daughter and her family. That shoebox idea is not half bad!
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Old 04-24-2012, 10:40 AM   #6
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We had a friend that bought a condo in an assisted living facility. It was pricey but he only made one payment and it was to take care of him to the rest of his life. He had a small apartment with a kitchenette but there was a caffeteria to go and eat meals at. When he got too ill to live in the apartment he was put in a nursing home but their goal was to get him back to assisted living.

If you were to live a long time then it would be worth doing but if you only lived a short time then it would be a waste of money. It might be worth looking into if there are some in your area.

Glen and I went to Colorado and saw him and his apartment one time. It was a very nice place.
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Old 04-24-2012, 11:49 AM   #7
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We have a place like that here in Austin, but an efficiency apartment is about $300,000 and you have to pay monthly fees which are about $3500 per month. I'm sure there are less expensive places like that, but I don't know about them in this area. This really is a good deal if you can afford it because they have independent living, assisted living, nursing home and alzheimer's care and like you said, you only have to buy your apartment when you move in - but the monthly fees would get me. Also, when you die your family gets back 95% of what you paid for the apartment. They also have stand alone homes that you can purchase but they are about $1,000,000.
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