What's Going On........

[DianaB]

Thanks for your support, Janet and Gayle.

Yes, it is jealousy. Jason's upset because he can't afford a vacation. Dae Lynn and Damon budget for a vacation.......she saves her money for them to go places. Also the trip to Branson was paid for by Damon's Dad. How do you turn that down?......just because your sister and BIL can't afford it????

Then Amy made the comment that she was jealous that Damon bought Dae Lynn an iPad???!!!!! Amy and Jason have had help in the past from his aunt and uncle. They have given them computers and bought Jason a pickup truck. Yes, Amy and Jason's money is tight.......I don't understand why because they both have fairly good jobs. I do know in the past they haven't made good decisions in things that they've bought but as a parent you have to stand by and let them do that hoping that they learn their lesson. The 4-wheeler that we bought for them was because they were wanting one but we gave them the choice as to whether they wanted to pay bills or buy a 4-wheeler so that wasn't a good decision on their part. Should we bail them out of that? No, I don't think so......that was their decision......a poor one.

Damon and Dae Lynn have looked at a house and I think are going to buy it but we're afraid of what everyone's reaction is going to be. The house is more expensive than the other one they were looking at but it has a rental trailer house with it that will make most of their payment. Also the house is listed way below appraisal value. The woman is a friend of ours and she just lost her husband and it's just too much for her to take care of. We're just not telling anyone......including Glen......about what's going on. They'll just have to deal with their jealousy and problems. Dae Lynn and Damon have to do what's best for them.

I was in tears this morning because of a talk that Glen and Dae Lynn had last night. Dae Lynn was actually very encouraging to me. I'm going to miss her when she moves out......at least she won't be far away!!!

[DianaB]

Well.....I talked to Amy briefly yesterday and yes.....Jason put his post on FB knowing that Dae Lynn had an iPad. He DID see a woman paying with foodstamps and a child playing on an iPad so that was his excuse for posting it but it was a dig at Dae Lynn. Jason is the one who continually stirs up trouble for Damon and Dae Lynn. There is quite an argument over how much we have spent on her.....her schooling.....which she has a $20,000 loan to pay off.......there's a question about who's bought her cars.....we bought ONE.......I think that there is a LOT of jealousy and speculation going on and none of it is right and that's what's causing all of the trouble. We're going to ignore all of it and consider the source. Dae Lynn's going to stay away from Amy and Jason for awhile but as soon as they get their house it's going to all come up again.....because they are going to assume that we're helping them but we're not. Dae Lynn's not even going to tell Glen that they're buying it so he can honestly say that he didn't know anything about it. It's just sad. I'm so diappointed in my family sometimes and that's sad because they are really good people.

[Janet]

Seems to me that when Jason starts this behavior, Amy needs to remind him that Dae Lynn is her family too and that he needs to keep his mouth shut and innuendos to himself....not FB.

[gja1000]

Family!!! Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em. That's not really true and I guess it isn't just family, but human nature. Jealousy is such an awful vice. It's one of the 7 deadly sins (I think). Why can't people just be happy (or neutral) for others fortunes. Not that Dae Lynn and Damon are fortunate by any stretch of the imagination, they have had so many struggles. But when things go right for a change, why can people be happy or just neutral. Jealousy causes so much strife.

[Janet]

So true Gayle. I don't understand why people can't be happy for each other instead of trying to knock them down. You'd especially want you family to succeed. Then...I think of my family who I haven't heard from (even though I've contacted them) and all my logic goes right out the window.

[DianaB]

I know.....it's so sad. Amy stopped by this morning and after talking about other things I asked why Jason thinks that we bought several cars for Dae Lynn.....which isn't true (We finished paying for ONE car while she was in college) well, it brought the WHOLE thing up. Amy said that Jason was even threatening about moving because I had pointed out that we had helped them out by letting them live on our property.....and we weren't expecting any payment from them but that was our way of helping them out. The arguements are getting so childish. Amy also pointed out that Dae Lynn was trying to talk Glen into a vacation in Florida so he could scuba dive and she and the kids could tag along. I knew when she brought it up that it wasn't going to happen......but the "others" all were upset with Dae Lynn that she could sponge a vacation off of us.....which she offered to pay for her part of going. They are also upset that Dae Lynn often takes my vehicle so that I can "pay for her gas". I know that she does that and it doesn't bother me......it does bother me when she makes unnecessary trips and I do mention that. Sometimes she takes her own car which gets better gas mileage. She DOES have one of our gas cards so she's not paying for her own gas.....except for when she goes out of town with Damon. The arguement is about such piddly, stupid things like that. Amy also pointed out that it's NOT Damon that they're upset with......it's Dae Lynn.

In our discussion it was pointed out to Glen that his talking to Jason and Feyn about Dae Lynn's problems and complaining wasn't helping anything......so hopefully he's going to try and keep things either to himself or friends that aren't family......that will pray for us.

I'm ready for this to die down or get over with. I'm so tired of this. If you hear a loud noise it may be me SCREAMING my head off!!!!!

[Janet]

Go ahead and scream....I've done it and must say it actually helps...lol I'll be listening!