TO SPANK OR NOT TO SPANK! That is the question

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Marilyn

I was spanked as a child, and it sure kept me in line. I didn't want to not spank due to Proverbs 13:24 "He who spares his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him promptly."

All punishment no matter the form, should be given because we love, not out of anger.

Marilyn, I love how you can justify everything you do from the Bible. I really admire you for that. I feel the same exact way as you do about everything on this board so far, and it is because I believe in the Bible. I was spanked as a child per Proverbs 13:24. I am not a mother yet, but when I am, I will punish my children, but if other forms of punishment (i.e. time out, taking things away, ect.) do not work, then I will resort to spanking because bad behavior needs to be punished.

[Kimberley]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Marilyn, I love how you can justify everything you do from the Bible. I really admire you for that. I feel the same exact way as you do about everything on this board so far, and it is because I believe in the Bible. I was spanked as a child per Proverbs 13:24. I am not a mother yet, but when I am, I will punish my children, but if other forms of punishment (i.e. time out, taking things away, ect.) do not work, then I will resort to spanking because bad behavior needs to be punished.

I agree with you! Marilyn, keep those bible verses coming!

[Janet]

My son is 15 now (16 in Dec.) and I can count on one hand the number of times he's been spanked. And even then it wasn't very hard, more of an attention getter. One thing I never did was put his time out in his room. That would be like sending him to Disney for punishment. No he had to sit in the hallway and think about what he had done. He was and is such a great young man and I'm so proud of him. He's only 15 and is working on his Eagle badge for Boy Scouts.

As a child I was BEATEN so bad that I would BLEED, I would wear a pair of jeans to school and the blood would get on them so I got it again I have been beat with a broom, saw my brothers hit with water hoses oh lord all the hell we my brothers and sister went thourgh as children. When I made up my mine not to cry when I got hit it just made it worse,I made up my mind NOT to spank my children and I haven't I would go outside when their father spank them and I would cry harder then they would, for many years this has when on. My daughter is out of the house and works 40 hours a week (but she hates me) My son thinks I can't do anything right he also hates me. My children does not repect me, but I still couldn't spank them if they where small again.

[BabyNicole]

I was wacked in the butt, but never beaten. It startled me, and I knew my mom and dad were mad at me. I don't have kids now, but I wouldn't think twice about tapping them in the a**.

[Taurus Babe]

I'm surprised at how many people spank! I know it's a great debate, but I was still surprise!

I did spank. (my children are grown now) . I was spanked when I was a child and it didn't hurt me any. I have thought back to those times and wondered if I had not got that kind of punishment how would it have been. I would have been a brat!
I didn't have to spank my children very often because when I did spank them, it was hard enought that they didn't want it again. That was the purpose, they learned from it. You warn them and if they do wrong again then they get the punishment. They have turned out to be extremely good grown adults.
Children now a days know that they won't be any consequences when they do what they know is wrong. They will gladly take a "sitting down and talking to" approach just to do what they want to do. where is the rearing there? They have you wrapped around their fingers when they choose their punishment.

I have to jump back in here and add that I absolutely hate it when my grandchildren are spanked. (this I refuse to do because that is the parents job).

[Sherry Lynn]

Originally Posted by BabyNicole

I was wacked in the butt, but never beaten. It startled me, and I knew my mom and dad were mad at me. I don't have kids now, but I wouldn't think twice about tapping them in the a**.

That's how my parents were. Usually all it took was her 'evil eye' , but when we did something really bad my Mom would take a fly swat and swat us on the backs of our legs. She never took it too far, and we always knew we were loved. And NEVER enough to leave marks much less bleed!

I remember seeing two sisters in gym class... when they went to change clothes they were black and blue all over. I mean big, nasty, deep bruises. Their parents were drunks and their dad had beat them for staying out after curfew. I was so upset I started crying, but they were numb to it... I guess it was nothing new to them. The last I heard they were both leading troubled lives. So sad. They didn't stand a chance.

Back then there was no such thing as an abuse hot line, or I would have called and reported the asshole. He was a prominent business owner in the town, so I guess if people knew they turned a blind eye on it.

[Carolyn]

I have no problem giving my kids a smack in the ass now and then but I find that taking things away from them or sending them to their room works better.

[Marilyn]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Marilyn, I love how you can justify everything you do from the Bible. I really admire you for that. I feel the same exact way as you do about everything on this board so far, and it is because I believe in the Bible. I was spanked as a child per Proverbs 13:24. I am not a mother yet, but when I am, I will punish my children, but if other forms of punishment (i.e. time out, taking things away, ect.) do not work, then I will resort to spanking because bad behavior needs to be punished.

Thank you for your comments. I don't know that everything that I do can be justified by the Bible, I'm far from perfect. I do believe that the Bible is the inspired word of God, that we should not add to it, or take away from it, and it is our personal responsibilty to study and learn what God's will is for our lives. The direction that He gives us is because we are His children and He loves us and wants the best for us.