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[Janet]

She could have a very nice wedding without putting her parents in financial straits. It just breaks my heart for her to treat my brother (her father) like that. She is getting married in a church, but she is sooooo VERY heavy that she doesn't want to get married in a gown, she's going to wear a pant suit. That's also why she doesn't want anyone but immediate family. So she'll spend all they have on a reception.

My brother told me that I may not want my son at the reception because of all the drinking....I can't figure out if that's his way of saying no kids...(Rick is 16) or leaving it up to me. If Rick isn't invited we definitely won't be going. We have always included his two daughters in everything. If Rick is allowed to attend, we may go for 30 - 60 minutes, but that will be it. Just so they can't say we didn't show up.

I guess I shouldn't let it bother me and I woudn't if it doesn't scare me about my brother having another heart attack due to the stress. He's already had two and survived, thank God.

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by Janet

She could have a very nice wedding without putting her parents in financial straits. It just breaks my heart for her to treat my brother (her father) like that. She is getting married in a church, but she is sooooo VERY heavy that she doesn't want to get married in a gown, she's going to wear a pant suit. That's also why she doesn't want anyone but immediate family. So she'll spend all they have on a reception.

My brother told me that I may not want my son at the reception because of all the drinking....I can't figure out if that's his way of saying no kids...(Rick is 16) or leaving it up to me. If Rick isn't invited we definitely won't be going. We have always included his two daughters in everything. If Rick is allowed to attend, we may go for 30 - 60 minutes, but that will be it. Just so they can't say we didn't show up.

I guess I shouldn't let it bother me and I woudn't if it doesn't scare me about my brother having another heart attack due to the stress. He's already had two and survived, thank God.

Does your Brother (her Dad) want to pay for it? Is he excited about planning all the arangements and being involved? If so, then possibly he wont be stressed out and you wont have to worry about his health, etc.

What about your Brother's wife - is she excited too? I think the women get more involved anyway's then the men do planning this sorta thing, I dunno.

Hopefully all the arrangements will go smoothly, you will go because it's your brother and you are there for him, everyone relaxed and enjoying themselves.

Weddings should be a celebration right? It's sad to see all the chaos that a wedding can bring.