Office romance.. don't do it!

[Mandy]

Im sorry if this sounds harsh, but in my opinion, that "man" is not worth hurting for! He had a good time while it lasted, had hes cake and are it.

He needs to be deleted out of your mind!

[Janet]

He may not be worth 'hurting for', but you're still hurting. Most likely, because the ending of this relationship had no closure whatsoever. Maybe it would help if you could write a letter, telling him exactly how you felt about him, how you feel about how he treated you, and what you really think of men who treat women that way. You don't have to send the letter, but maybe, writing it all out, will help you close this chapter so you can move on.

[Lindsey]

I know I'm young but I do know how it feels to be betrayed like that. I was in a 3-year relationship and when it ended I found out that he had cheated on me the whole time. I know it hurts. You deserve better than that, and I pray that you will stay strong and don't try to make contact no matter how hard it is. It's easier said than done, I know just recently going through a breakup myself. I'm glad you found this forum, the women here are a great support system.

[Shada]

Lindsey, thank you for your kind words, I have also read your posts and know you yourself are going thru a hard time.
Believe this: You and I will become stronger, we will survive and in time will be able to look back and be thankful we are no longer with a man who would treat us this way.

They on the other hand have to look back with regret that they treated a person who only wanted to love them, make them happy, in such a cheap shabby way.

Janet, funny you should mention I should put it down in words just how he made me feel. I did just that a week ago. Wrote him a long email explaining how I thought he was such a man of character, honesty, integrity.
How he made me feel, leaving town like a coward, and leaving me to hear the truth from others.
Then I deleted it.

Thank you all for your replys.

This is a nice forum and I am glad I discovered it.

[Gina]

Sorry to hear about this story and the hurt that he created. You had put your trust in him. Just curious did he ever tell you that he wanted more out of this relationship? I don't know about the office hoe, would you think that she would lie? What reason would she have to. I believe he was dishonest with you from the get go, and he preyed on your kind character..

You have been working on the job for over 20 years , I am assuming that you are an older woman and he was a older man. I am sorry to say but by him leaving without a goodbye tells me he his not a nice person. For you to email him and for his response to be none of your business, he is so wrong, he lead you on for 18 mts. you deserve more than that. Like Janet said write him a letter, but I would email it to him. Just put your cards on the table and let him know what a despeciable person that he is, and what goes around, comes around. I am sorry but he sounds like a player not a decent person. I think once you write your thoughts and send it to him, it will be a satisfaction, I know when I am fuming I need to vent to get it off my chest. I don't think this relationship will resurect and I don't think you should want it to. You need to move forward and remember that you are a decent person and good things will come to you.. Good luck!

[Gina]

Sorry about the smiley on top, I couldnt delete it after I submited it..

[Tink]

Shada, the best revenge is to go on and be happy without him. You loved the man he pretended to be... not the butthead lowlife he really is. No man worth having would treat a woman the way he treated you.

I hope your heart heals soon and you're able to find love with a man who truly deserves you.

Hugs

[Chandra Amaya]

Originally Posted by Shada

Lindsey, thank you for your kind words, I have also read your posts and know you yourself are going thru a hard time.
Believe this: You and I will become stronger, we will survive and in time will be able to look back and be thankful we are no longer with a man who would treat us this way.

They on the other hand have to look back with regret that they treated a person who only wanted to love them, make them happy, in such a cheap shabby way.

Janet, funny you should mention I should put it down in words just how he made me feel. I did just that a week ago. Wrote him a long email explaining how I thought he was such a man of character, honesty, integrity.
How he made me feel, leaving town like a coward, and leaving me to hear the truth from others.
Then I deleted it.

Thank you all for your replys.

This is a nice forum and I am glad I discovered it.

Shada it sounds like you have answered your own questions. You know you deserve better & you know you will find that someday. You also know that he (they) WILL regret it one day after you have found true happiness. I wish speed in your heart healing & hope for you to find a real man in your next relationship.

[Marilyn]

Everyone is expressing the same thoughts that I had when reading your post. You deserve so much better. So horrible that there are such deceptive, hurtful people in this world. Wishing you well and healing after such a disappointing and painful experience. Hugs!!!

[rivermom]

I don't think you made a mistake at all. What wrong is falling in love? What wrong is trusting someone? What wrong is opening up your heart? Nothing.

Don't blame yourself, don't blame him. Life is full of journey's and you've found another to add to your list of many you will experience in your lifetime.

Remember, everything happens for a reason.

Don't allow this to stop you again from loving someone.