I have to Vent!!

[magnolia]

Oh hon, I'm so sorry to hear of all that you're going through. With the problem pregnancy to begin with, added with the surgery your precious baby had to go through, and being in your in-law's home is extremely stressful. Heck, it's stressful enough having a new baby in your own home, much less with all you've had added! There is nothing wrong with needing medication at this time and your mom has "never heard of it" because she's probably never been told by friends or even family that they needed to take medication. Look at Brooke Shields! She's a celebrity and has admitted to taking medication for "the blues". So hold your head high and proud, you did the right thing seaking advice from your doctor instead of continuing on in your present state without meds to help. Everyone, at one point and time in their life, will need some form of medication to help them during difficult times. As for the weight issue, don't worry about it. As someone told me years ago when I had my first, it took 9 months to put the weight on, it won't drop off over night. You've not stopped since the baby was born to be able to focus on working out and stuff. The main thing to remember is this: if you are happy with your weight for now, then don't let what anyone says bother you - I know, easier said than done. But the weight will come off - you've got to take care of you mentally and spiritually before you can take care of yourself physically. Hang in there - we all love and support you here

[Janet]

Aw sweetie, I feel so bad that you're having all of this to deal with. No new mother should, it should be more of a time of rejoicing and bonding.

If it is at all possible, is there anyway you three can get a small apartment or anything that you can call your own? I think that would help out a great deal.

I also think it would be great if you had someone that could help you with all the feelings you're having and how to deal with them. If finances won't allow it, speak with your Dr., there are free places you can go, it not, talk with your pastor or any pastor. Take your meds as prescribed, but take care of your mental health as you are your physical.

I'm wishing you all the best, and if none of the suggestions will work for you at this time, then know we are here for you.