Not going to believe this one!!

[DianaB]

Janet, the book that I mentioned in another thread, the Five Love Languages, is one that you should probably read. When I got it I cried through two whole chapters because they really spoke about what I was feeling. Basically it says that there are 5 ways for your spouse to let you know that they love you and if they're not reaching you in the way that you need then you're not feeling loved.

It sounds like your husband, like my own, isn't meeting your needs. My husband is a wonderful man who loves me very much, but my need is quality time, and he fails in that area. When I look back over the years I've always felt that he never had time for me alone. In every other area he's been wonderful, but those things aren't what has made me feel loved. He's reading the book and I'm trying to communicate (my biggest problem, I don't communicate when I'm upset). I'm hoping that things will definitely improve. It hasn't been a very good marriage in my opinion for quite a while, but he didn't see that we had any problems.

I recommend the book only if you and your husband can get together and discuss it. Maybe it will help you to understand what is important to the other and things will improve for you too.

[Janet]

Thank you Diana.

[AngieDoogles]

Here is the link for The Five Love Languages. http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/

There is a quiz there that helps you determine for sure what your love language is and from there it is easier to meet each others' needs. Brendon and I both have a copy of this book, so if anyone would like me to send you a copy, just PM me and I'd be happy to.

Like Diana, I highly recommend reading this book with your spouse. It's an amazing and enlightening experience. I feel that my marriage has been much better than it would have if we hadn't learned those concepts.

[judy]

Dear Janet,

I'm so sorry that you're not happy now. I wasn't happy during my last marriage either and when that ended, even with the other issues I have in my life, I learned that I am always happy. It's just the way I'm made.

Look deep inside and see if you can get in touch with that happy part of you. When you find it, and feel it, just go with it. Nobody can take that from you.

I'm sending you prayers and hugs,

Judy

[Mandy]

We just dont "get it" at times, as they dont "get it" with us, but i agree with you Janet, theres absolutly no use in making up a soiled bed, it would have been a lot easier if he had taken all the bedding off, and told you it was in the washing machine, thats what my husband would have done.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Mandy

We just dont "get it" at times, as they dont "get it" with us, but i agree with you Janet, theres absolutly no use in making up a soiled bed, it would have been a lot easier if he had taken all the bedding off, and told you it was in the washing machine, thats what my husband would have done.

Sounds like you have a good man Mandy!!

Oh Janet, I feel so sad for you....I'm not going to tell you to accept this or don't make a mountain out of a mole hill, it sounds like these things tend to leave you feeling very sad, hurt, disappointed & unappreciated even if the intent wasn't there. .... it's to bad what "should have been" has turned into "what you didn't want" ...I hope you can find some comfort in the things that do bring joy in your life like your son & pets... Now as for the bed....I would have told him I was going to watch some tv & I would have slept on the couch & he can sleep in the darn poo...one more day of not doing the wash wouldn't have hurt ....as for the money, I sure hope no animal digs that up