Feeling very sad tonight

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by judy

Dear Angie,

You can't delete the feelings, even if you delete the pictures honey. I used to lead a group for divorced and separated women and our theme was "You can't get through it until you go though it." Sadly, this is the absolute truth. You're strong and good and you'll work it through in your own mind until you make peace with yourself.

In the meantime, I'm sending you prayers and lots of hugs,

Judy

So you don't think deleting those pictures will help? I thought maybe it would help me to not dwell on things that won't change. My thinking was that if I have nothing to remind me of it, then I won't think about it as much and won't feel as sad. I already got rid of all of the pictures in my house, just not the ones on my computer yet (or old emails, I'm really bad about reading those and making myself sad again).

Thank you for your advice, prayers, and hugs! I really appreciate it.

[Janet]

I would hate for you to throw away..delete...whatever, any kind of picture. Someday you will be ready to look at them again and you won't have them.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by Janet

I would hate for you to throw away..delete...whatever, any kind of picture. Someday you will be ready to look at them again and you won't have them.

I understand. That's why I haven't gotten rid of them yet. It's just that at this point I'm willing to do whatever needs to be done to not feel this way anymore. Is it worth it to regret it later?

[Mandy]

Girl girl girl, i am so sorry you are feeling down. I do agree with Judy's post, deleting pictures, and emails wont wipe out any memories. Angie, try to file those emails, and pictures in a hotmail file, or yahoo, or something, thats what i did years ago, as i had to go thru a similar experience, i made a little file, gave it a name, and closed it, till i was ready to open it, and look at it again. It helps not having to see it everytime you open your mailbox, yet comforting to know they there when you want to see them.

Hope you will feel better soon, and hugs to you!

[judy]

Originally Posted by Mandy

Girl girl girl, i am so sorry you are feeling down. I do agree with Judy's post, deleting pictures, and emails wont wipe out any memories. Angie, try to file those emails, and pictures in a hotmail file, or yahoo, or something, thats what i did years ago, as i had to go thru a similar experience, i made a little file, gave it a name, and closed it, till i was ready to open it, and look at it again. It helps not having to see it everytime you open your mailbox, yet comforting to know they there when you want to see them.

Hope you will feel better soon, and hugs to you!

Angie,

Mandy took the words right out of my mouth! File them on a dvd or whatever, and you can decide later. When I was deciding to divorce my second husband, I kept a few journals, which I hid at work. Several years later, I took them out and decided I didn't want to go back to revisit those feelings. I threw them into a dumpster somewhere in Brooklyn. You might decide that or you might want to deal with them - and once you do file them, maybe you can put them out of your mind for now.

Hugs and prayers,

Judy

[AngieDoogles]

That is a wonderful idea ladies!! Thank you so much! I will definitely consider this...

[AngieDoogles]

Grr...I may not have a problem anymore! My external hard-drive (where I keep ALL of my pictures) is no longer being recognized by either of our computers. My hubby, being the awesomely geeky computer nerd that he is, thinks he can retrieve all of the data without a problem, but it will have to wait a week until we get back from Pittsburgh...so no pictures for me for a while...