What to do...

[Shada]

I can see so much of myself in your posts about this guy...

This was a few years back, but I was seeing somebody, who said all the right things, did all the right things, THEN, when he thought he had ME in control, started in on the dogs..I had two dogs, (still have them, but he is gone!!)

He at the beginning, 'loved my dogs', then he changed to a person who did not want to be bothered, my dogs were constantly yelled at, not allowed off their beds, when he was around, he continually spoke to them harshly, 'lay down, get on your bed, get out of the kitchen, stay out of the bedroom".. it got BAD, I let it go for awhile thinking he would change, the only thing that changed was my dogs attitude when he was around. They turned into fearful creatures that were scared to make a move whe he was around.

Truthfully, when he was here, they were scared to move off their beds. Within 1 minute of his leaving, they were once again happy dogs. They apparently were terrified of him!! We got into many fights, disagreements, over the way he treated my dogs. My dogs are not wild unmanageable creatures. As I am sure yours is not.

Main thing I am trying to say here is:
This is a control issue. Do not let him control how you live with your dog. If he wins this battle, there will be another.. then another.. till he has total say about your every move or thought.

I got rid of that idiot. I want someone who can, and will accept me as I am, to accept the pets I have, if they can't, then goodbye.
They were here before any man, and when I took them into my home, I promised them a life with me, a life where I could give them the loyalty they give to me.

I am a package deal. Love me, love my dogs.

Lets say you let him win the dog battle, you then have a happy man who controls you, and a dog who is terrifed and can't understand...

What is the next battle??