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[DianaB]

This is one of my biggest pet peeves and I know how you feel, Angie. My husband is always late too unless it's something he's involved in. And I can relate to what Janet said about his family. I think that they only set a time to begin because that's what normal people are suppose to do but then they ignore it. We've learned that going to my husband's family get-togethers means going 1-2 hours later than they tell us AND that's when everyone else shows up too!

My husband will come home 20 minutes before we have to be somewhere. It will take him 10 minutes to shower and dress and it takes us 10 minutes to get to town. It's always very rushed and usually I'm fustrated. I've started going ahead and leaving earlier and he can go in when he's ready.

Kate, you have some good advice!!!

[katepoet]

Sometimes we take separate cars so my husband can leave early!

[rivermom]

I've truly never understood the habitually late habits of adults. That is of course in case of an emergency, etc.

It was ingrained in my head as a young teen that times were set for a reason. If i didn't meet the time required I paid the crime. (always two weeks of restriction)

Trust me, I hated restriction...LOL But now as an adult. I am NEVER late anywhere I go. And luckily my husband understands too the importance of time.

I feel it is nothing but rude and inconsiderate for others to have to wait on those who are late. It's disrecspectful that those who arrive late don't have respect for those whom are waiting. It says to the person waiting "you don't matter". Urghghghh this one always get's me angry, LOL

I wish I had magic answers for you Angie and do hope that the two of you come up with some plans that might resolve this problem. If you have the magic button, and pushed it transforms your husband to do what you really need him to do...Can I borrow it please?

[AngieDoogles]

Thanks for all of the great advice ladies. It seems like a few of you are just like me when it comes to not wanting to be late. I think Sheryl put it best when she said that's it's about respect for other people. That's really the key point, the main reason I hate being late for anything.

Bren is working on being on time more often because he knows how important it is to me, but I'm just so impatient! I want him to be on time, every time, starting now. lol. I know it's a process and I'm so glad he's working on it. I just need to remember to give him room to make mistakes...

[judy]

Angie,

You can want him to do it because he loves you enough all you want. Not that you're wrong, but you may have to help him out to get him there.

We all know Brendon loves you. It's time for a sit down and a long talk on why he's late, and how can you help him. I agree with Kate on this one. Things like habitual lateness are usually more complicated than meets the eye.

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by judy

Angie,

You can want him to do it because he loves you enough all you want. Not that you're wrong, but you may have to help him out to get him there.

We all know Brendon loves you. It's time for a sit down and a long talk on why he's late, and how can you help him. I agree with Kate on this one. Things like habitual lateness are usually more complicated than meets the eye.

We've talked about it SO many times. It has nothing to do with a need to be independent or anything else like that. It's always just that he "forgets" or doesn't have everything together or needs to brush his teeth...or something. Being on time just isn't a high priority for him like it is for me. But you know, I really have a lot of other things to be thankful for so I should just learn to let it go when he's late.

[judy]

Originally Posted by AngieDoogles

We've talked about it SO many times. It has nothing to do with a need to be independent or anything else like that. It's always just that he "forgets" or doesn't have everything together or needs to brush his teeth...or something. Being on time just isn't a high priority for him like it is for me. But you know, I really have a lot of other things to be thankful for so I should just learn to let it go when he's late.

If you can - it be too high a priority for you to just let it go, but if not, he is a
wonderful young man, and a great husband.

You can also spend the entire rest of your married life fighting about it. It might really be too important for you to let go. Anyway, make-up sex is fun.