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judy · 10-22-2007, 08:37 AM

Dear Sheryl,

I'll keep your pain in my heart and you do the same for me. That's how you know that, no matter what, life is really good.

Love,

Judy

Marilyn · 10-22-2007, 04:29 PM

Sorry I haven't been around much lately and just finished reading this entire thread. Judy, I cannot imagine what you are and have been going through. And you are there in that huge city.

The ladies here have been so supportive of you and given you such good advice, all I can do is agree with them. I'll pray for you and your daughter and that you find someone who will understand and appreciate you who will share your amazing life with you.

I know people who have used some of the online services to find their special someone and have been very happy with the results. At least it's a step in the right direction.

I'm not far behind you in age, and actually 30 years is a long time. Lots of time to do some quality living!!!

judy · 10-23-2007, 08:21 AM

Thank you Marilyn! I just got a message from a man on one of those on-line services. He's 48 (12 years younger, but maybe that's okay), kind of cute in the way I like, intelligent, sense of humor....

But then I read on

5'7" (I like a bit taller) - certainly it's something I could live with though.

Earns 75 - 100K/year - OKAY!

No kids, divorced - Not terrible, but I love kids, and would love a family. However, maybe I could live with that.

Lives with roommates - ????? Aren't grown-ups supposed to have their own homes, apartments, etc. In my world, they are.

Lives on a budget - on 75 - 100K/year, living with roommates? No, no. no.

He got deleted.

I thank you for your prayers Marilyn. I keep telling God I want her back in my life.
I know he hears me. He must have a really good reason for this, but extra prayers can't hurt!

katepoet · 10-23-2007, 10:13 AM

Maybe living with roommates is because he didn't have kids and misses having family. Friends are a way of being connected.

I expect one day to live with women again, sort of like college but perhaps more of we each have our own apartment in a communal structure with communal gardens, etc. (If I outlast my husband, that is.)

AngieDoogles · 10-23-2007, 10:37 AM

Judy, I'm so glad you are out there looking for someone. Congrats to you! Even if you don't find your "soul mate" right away, at least you can have some fun and maybe make a few friends along the way. Good luck!

judy · 10-23-2007, 03:04 PM

I have had some very funny online experiences, but haven't made friends with anyone yet, Angie. That would be really nice. I enjoy having male friends a lot.

Kate,

That does sound nice. In a man though, I want someone who can live alone and take care of himself. I'm not good with needy people.

katepoet · 10-23-2007, 08:49 PM

I guess I don't think of wanting community as being needy. I think of it as healthy. I think I get the gist of what you mean, though, and if you get the ick feeling from his words - toss him out!

10-22-2007, 08:37 AM	#1
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Dear Sheryl, I'll keep your pain in my heart and you do the same for me. That's how you know that, no matter what, life is really good. Love, Judy __________________ *Judy*

10-22-2007, 04:29 PM	#2
Marilyn Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: South Texas Posts: 4,907	Sorry I haven't been around much lately and just finished reading this entire thread. Judy, I cannot imagine what you are and have been going through. And you are there in that huge city. The ladies here have been so supportive of you and given you such good advice, all I can do is agree with them. I'll pray for you and your daughter and that you find someone who will understand and appreciate you who will share your amazing life with you. I know people who have used some of the online services to find their special someone and have been very happy with the results. At least it's a step in the right direction. I'm not far behind you in age, and actually 30 years is a long time. Lots of time to do some quality living!!! __________________ Marilyn If anyone would like a free Bible Study CD or book entitled "Searching for Truth", PM me with your mailing address and I'll send you one. "And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free." John 8:32

10-23-2007, 08:21 AM	#3
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Thank you Marilyn! I just got a message from a man on one of those on-line services. He's 48 (12 years younger, but maybe that's okay), kind of cute in the way I like, intelligent, sense of humor.... But then I read on 5'7" (I like a bit taller) - certainly it's something I could live with though. Earns 75 - 100K/year - OKAY! No kids, divorced - Not terrible, but I love kids, and would love a family. However, maybe I could live with that. Lives with roommates - ????? Aren't grown-ups supposed to have their own homes, apartments, etc. In my world, they are. Lives on a budget - on 75 - 100K/year, living with roommates? No, no. no. He got deleted. I thank you for your prayers Marilyn. I keep telling God I want her back in my life. I know he hears me. He must have a really good reason for this, but extra prayers can't hurt! __________________ *Judy*

10-23-2007, 10:37 AM	#5
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	Judy, I'm so glad you are out there looking for someone. Congrats to you! Even if you don't find your "soul mate" right away, at least you can have some fun and maybe make a few friends along the way. Good luck! __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~MT

10-23-2007, 03:04 PM	#6
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	I have had some very funny online experiences, but haven't made friends with anyone yet, Angie. That would be really nice. I enjoy having male friends a lot. Kate, That does sound nice. In a man though, I want someone who can live alone and take care of himself. I'm not good with needy people. __________________ *Judy*

10-23-2007, 10:13 AM	#4
katepoet Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 992	Maybe living with roommates is because he didn't have kids and misses having family. Friends are a way of being connected. I expect one day to live with women again, sort of like college but perhaps more of we each have our own apartment in a communal structure with communal gardens, etc. (If I outlast my husband, that is.)

10-23-2007, 08:49 PM	#7
katepoet Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 992	I guess I don't think of wanting community as being needy. I think of it as healthy. I think I get the gist of what you mean, though, and if you get the ick feeling from his words - toss him out!

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