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Old 10-22-2007, 06:21 PM   #1
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I get so sick of people who think a messy house reflects that the woman in it is at fault! Everyone in a household is making choices and prioritizing in ways that affect the mess - even when they don't think they are the ones making the mess. And a messy house means life is happening there, being lived, loved, explored. If the kitchen and bathrooms are clean and no one can trip over anything and break a leg - well that should just about do it!

As for showing off the new features - why? With business associates that is awfully invasive of family personal space IMHO. But that's me...
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Old 10-23-2007, 03:53 AM   #2
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Old 10-23-2007, 04:11 AM   #3
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I think they are pretty much all alike in this regard. My hubby has taken people into rooms that to me would have been off limits. When I asked him why, he just did not get it either. Me..."But the bed wasn't make!!" Him...."So, they weren't there to see the bed!" It's sooo frustrating.

Actually, I don't know if they are too oblivious, or we are too sensitive, but we do feel that we are judged as women by how our home looks, whether it is clean and neat. Most of us work outside the home just as many or more hours that our husbands do, so why do we put this pressure on ourselves??? Times have changed and then in some ways they haven't.

Confusing and contradicting society we live in!!!!
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Old 10-23-2007, 08:01 AM   #4
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I think they are pretty much all alike in this regard. My hubby has taken people into rooms that to me would have been off limits. When I asked him why, he just did not get it either. Me..."But the bed wasn't make!!" Him...."So, they weren't there to see the bed!" It's sooo frustrating.

Actually, I don't know if they are too oblivious, or we are too sensitive, but we do feel that we are judged as women by how our home looks, whether it is clean and neat. Most of us work outside the home just as many or more hours that our husbands do, so why do we put this pressure on ourselves??? Times have changed and then in some ways they haven't.

Confusing and contradicting society we live in!!!!
We talk about this same issue pretty often in my Child Welfare course. Women, traditionally, were supposed to take care of the children, keep the house clean, make sure the family has meals at the proper times, etc. etc. BUT that was ALL she did. Now, women are pretty much expected to work to help support the family, but they are still supposed to fill all of those traditional roles as well. The father on the other hand, generally still does what he has always done. No wonder women are so stressed!!
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Old 10-23-2007, 08:09 AM   #5
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We talk about this same issue pretty often in my Child Welfare course. Women, traditionally, were supposed to take care of the children, keep the house clean, make sure the family has meals at the proper times, etc. etc. BUT that was ALL she did. Now, women are pretty much expected to work to help support the family, but they are still supposed to fill all of those traditional roles as well. The father on the other hand, generally still does what he has always done. No wonder women are so stressed!!


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Old 10-23-2007, 08:34 AM   #6
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So very true, Angie!! It's no wonder we turn grey so fast!
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I admire women who work and still can keep a household running. Especially if they have kids involved in all sorts of stuff. My daughter-in-law does a great job of keeping everything going and the house clean but my son is also very good at pitching in when needed.
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