Aaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[judy]

It is a rough one - because you may have to board your dogs, but I agree with Sheryl.

Whenever I find myself resenting somebody's actions, I don't do whatever it is anymore. The trick is to do it as nicely as possible if you want to maintain the friendship, and because she works for you.

I hope she comes back soon!

[toodles]

well, she came back the next day and yeah, i have talked to her a bit. not about everything. but just about her attitude in general. she's been a bit of a "b" lately and it is really starting to get to me. it's like she isn't thinking about what she says before it spills out. DH thinks it is because she is frustrated with her BF because he is always late, kinda lazy, and is taking a very long time to propose. we all thought it would have happened by now. he has the ring (she does not know this) but he just hasn't done it. they kept talking about getting married in May and she knows time is counting down and she is getting frustrated about it. i told her it gives her no right to treat us all like crap. she said she didn't mean to...so I read some of the emails she has sent to my husband back to her. i asked her how she would feel if i sent her or her BF an email like that. she didn't say much. she just said she is stressed. well...that's no excuse and i told her.

she says she is stressed about work. i told her that she will continue to be stressed until she talks about what is bothering her and give people fair chance to make it right. holding it in will just make her life hell and ruin her friendships...with me as well as others.

we have always had a WONDERFUL friendship...with little to no bumps in the road. so this is kinda catching me off guard. but we will be fine. still some more talking to do but we will get it all out and be ok I love her more than any friend i have ever known...we will fix this

[AngieDoogles]

Originally Posted by toodles

we have always had a WONDERFUL friendship...with little to no bumps in the road. so this is kinda catching me off guard. but we will be fine. still some more talking to do but we will get it all out and be ok I love her more than any friend i have ever known...we will fix this

Sounds like you're going about this in just the right way. A friendship, especially a good one, is too important to just give up over something small.

[judy]

I read a beautiful line in one of Wally Lamb's books, "Never give away love."

Keep trying and just do your best.

Good luck and I really hope it works out well.

[katepoet]

Sounds like you are taking the risk and putting it out there - how brave! Sometimes friends do have to be confronted with the truth in order for them to get it together. I haven't done that in a long time - it seems as we all get older we are less likely to consider changing when a friend hits us upside the head - but it sounds like you have a good chance of her coming back to you with her truth.

[DianaB]

I'm glad that you had a little talk with her. If she's a friend that you want to keep you have to keep hard feelings from ruining your friendship. It sounds like she could definitely use a friend right now so I'm glad that you're there for her. Keep up the good work!