Adhd

[Janet]

What a great future you have ahead of you. I so wish I could turn back the hands of time!!! I wanted to go to college to be a teacher, but thought I was "too much in love" and didn't want to leave him. DUMB! DUMB! DUMB! I always encourage everyone to do all the things you want to do before you get married. I was never able to afford to go after I got married.

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Janet

What a great future you have ahead of you. I so wish I could turn back the hands of time!!! I wanted to go to college to be a teacher, but thought I was "too much in love" and didn't want to leave him. DUMB! DUMB! DUMB! I always encourage everyone to do all the things you want to do before you get married. I was never able to afford to go after I got married.

That is what my mother & grandmother preached to me....do ALL the things you want to do BEFORE you get married. I got married right after undergrad, but luckily my hubby and I have the same life goals. He is all about me going to law school and being a professional and having a career. He works so much that I HAVE to have something to keep me occupied. I figure, why not make a little money while doing it, right? Plus, I LOVE law. I have wanted to be an attorney ever since I can remember.

[Gina]

Rebecca you go girl!! that is wonderful that you are studying to be an attorney. I am sorry I never had the head to apply myself , law is a very interesting field. I wish like Janet mentioned that I can turn back the clock and I would definetly go to law school. Good luck to you sweetie! I encourage both my children to do something with their lives while they are young. My son is taking business in college and my daughter is studying to be an optomertist .

[Amber_lv]

i think my son might have it

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Amber_lv

i think my son might have it

Amber, I would have him tested. My son, even in the 4th grade, knew something wasn't right. He knew he couldn't stay focused. He could tell a difference and even told me so one day after school a few days after he first started taking medication. It's been a Godsend.

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Gina

Rebecca you go girl!! that is wonderful that you are studying to be an attorney. I am sorry I never had the head to apply myself , law is a very interesting field. I wish like Janet mentioned that I can turn back the clock and I would definetly go to law school. Good luck to you sweetie! I encourage both my children to do something with their lives while they are young. My son is taking business in college and my daughter is studying to be an optomertist .

Thank you SO much! My mom made me promise her that if I got married right after undergrad that I would still go back to school. I promised her I would. I love it too much not to. I am just not the "housewife" kind of person. I don't cook, I don't clean, I don't want kids for a LONG time...I gotta have something to keep me occupied since my hubby works about 80-100 hours a week!

[Necee419]

My stepson, who is 15, was diagnosed with ADD. He was put on Ritalin and he didn't like the "dopey" feeling he got from it. He has since been off medication. He lives in Florida with his mom but spends a month in the summer with my husband and I. One of the things that strikes me about him is that he cannot concentrate in school or anything academic. But put a playstation 2 game or an action movie in front of him and the world can collapse around him and it would not break his concentration. So how is this ADD? Or is it selective ADD? I don't know how I feel about all of this medication for such young children. I know it truly helps some kids do better in school and that some children ABSOLUTELY need meds but I worry that doctors are too quick with prescribing medication for children. In the case of my stepson, I don't think he lacks attention skills, it is more like lack of interest and laziness. I am sure there are many others like him out there that are being pumped full of medication unneccesarily. Again, I am not referring to anyone who truly needs them.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Necee419

My stepson, who is 15, was diagnosed with ADD. He was put on Ritalin and he didn't like the "dopey" feeling he got from it. He has since been off medication. He lives in Florida with his mom but spends a month in the summer with my husband and I. One of the things that strikes me about him is that he cannot concentrate in school or anything academic. But put a playstation 2 game or an action movie in front of him and the world can collapse around him and it would not break his concentration. So how is this ADD? Or is it selective ADD? I don't know how I feel about all of this medication for such young children. I know it truly helps some kids do better in school and that some children ABSOLUTELY need meds but I worry that doctors are too quick with prescribing medication for children. In the case of my stepson, I don't think he lacks attention skills, it is more like lack of interest and laziness. I am sure there are many others like him out there that are being pumped full of medication unneccesarily. Again, I am not referring to anyone who truly needs them.

Don't be too quick to judge your step-son as being lazy and lack of interest. The reason they can do so well with video games is because there is soooo much happening in them all at the same time. At least that's how the Drs. explained it to us. It's when they are in the classroom, where, really not too much is happening. I mean they are just listening to the teacher, or doing their school work. Basically, just one thing at a time and that is why it is hard to stay focused.

A lot of ADD and ADHD kids do great in sports because there are so many things to watch for and do at the same time. Hope this helps explain it.

[Necee419]

That makes sense. He is good in anything that involves lots of brain stimulation. Like if you buy him those complicated Legos sets (like Star Wars, etc.), he'll spend hours constructing the images on the box. Hubby made him and his sister get books from the library to read over the summer and it was torture for him. He hates to read. His mom took him off the medication because he complained that he didn't like the way he felt on them. He just started the new school year in Florida and already my husband has gotten a few calls from his mom saying he isn't doing well and has gotten in trouble a few times already. My husband is resolved the he is never going to be an "einstein." I feel so bad for him.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

That is what my mother & grandmother preached to me....do ALL the things you want to do BEFORE you get married. I got married right after undergrad, but luckily my hubby and I have the same life goals. He is all about me going to law school and being a professional and having a career. He works so much that I HAVE to have something to keep me occupied. I figure, why not make a little money while doing it, right? Plus, I LOVE law. I have wanted to be an attorney ever since I can remember.

Rebecca that is great that you have such a supporting husband. I was just young and stupid and wanted to get out of my parents house. Boy isn't it the truth that hindsight is 20/20?

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Janet

Rebecca that is great that you have such a supporting husband. I was just young and stupid and wanted to get out of my parents house. Boy isn't it the truth that hindsight is 20/20?

My mom got married right out of college and she said the only reason she did it was because she wanted out of her parents house. But that only lasted 2 years and luckily they didn't have any children. My mom married my dad when she was 29 and they have been married now for 25 years and have 3 girls (including me, of course). So, you can imagine my mom's apprehensions when I came to her during my senior year of college and told her that my then boyfriend and I wanted to get married. She made me promise her that if she let me get married that I would go back to school and pursue my dream and finish my education. I promised her I would My mom has her masters degree, but she didn't get it until she was divorced from her first husband.