My Daughter Jessica called me!!!

[Gina]

Judy, I to am so happy for you. God has answered your prayers. You have your daughter and your grandchildren back into your life and what a blessing.

I to tell you to overlook your son in law he doesn't sound to well grounded, sometimes in life we have to over look a lot just to make peace. I will give you a for instance, my sis in law older son is married to a woman who does not care for her. They have had words in the past, so to make peace when my sis in law and her daughter in law are in each other's company they act civilized. My nephew has three children, so he visits his mother often and brings the grandkids alone.. His wife allows the kids to go to grandmas, but she does not visit her home. My point here is that my sis in law is happy to see her grandkids, She doesn't like that her daughter in law does not treat her like a mother, but she has accepted it. A choice that has been made for her.

Jessica has told you that he is this way with his own mom, so what can you expect Judy. My advice to you is to treasure your relationship with your daughter and grandchildren. Go spend Thanksgiving with them and do what grandmothers do best.. LOVE THEM... I guess your daughter does not live close by you.

to you my friend

[judy]

Thank you all for your support! Like Tink said a couple of weeks ago, we need each other! I couldn't wait to post this yesterday. And Janet and Tink, I appreciate your loving advice so much (even though I didn't exactly take it, I did say what I had to say very softly and as lovingly as I could).

Anyway, I just got off the phone after about an hour of my granddaughter, Mackenzie, talking nonstop. I think I might have gotten 3 sentences in! It was so wonderful.

I was going to wait a few days to call, so as not to overwhelm them, and also to avoid getting her husband on the phone, but at 9 PM my daughter called and told me that Mackenzie wanted to say good night to me, so she went to put the 2 little ones to bed while my angel girl and I chatted. Jessie said she'll call me tomorrow.

I'm kind of still in shock over this. It's so funny how life can change in a moment's time for bad and foe good.

I'm not going to read your posts for the day because I'm really in my own little cloud and not thinking so straight. I hope everybody is okay. I'll talk to you all tomorrow.

Sheryl - I'm praying for you next.

[judy]

"Keep in mind that she is in the middle with you on one side and her husband on the
other." ( from Diana)
A good point and something to remember. Very well put!

"overlook your son in law he doesn't sound to well grounded, sometimes in life we have to over look a lot just to make peace." (from Gina)
I think I finally am able to just overlook most of what he says. Imagine that! You live long enough, anything is possible!

I am married to an alcoholic so I can see on both sides of the fence..Ive been in Al-anon for 4 years now and its a struggle even though he has been sober for 13 months..I know what it is like to keep everyone out of my life...but luckily with al-anon I dont do that anymore..does your daughter attend al-anon too?

Dawn

[DianaB]

Judy, I'm so happy that your grandchildren are thrilled to have you in their life. Like you said...What a change!!!! I can't imagine the excitement that you are feeling right now!!! What a gift you've been given!!!!

[katepoet]

How glorious! I love how these little girls can just open up and share their love. What a pleasure for you - an understatement, I know!

[judy]

Originally Posted by sweetr72

I am married to an alcoholic so I can see on both sides of the fence..Ive been in Al-anon for 4 years now and its a struggle even though he has been sober for 13 months..I know what it is like to keep everyone out of my life...but luckily with al-anon I dont do that anymore..does your daughter attend al-anon too?

Dawn

Dear Dawn,

13 months is a long time! Congratulations to both of you! I loved Al-anon. You can't help but become a better person for it. I met the most wonderful people there.

I am sorry you're in this struggle, however, and am sending prayers for your serenity.

My daughter went a few times, years ago. It was weird - one of the women asked her not to come back because this woman's daughter was my daughter's neighbor. Nobody knew that she went to Al-anon and she didn't want Jessie to tell her. Isn't that awful! I think Jessie is also in heavy denial, or she would have found a better group after a while.

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by judy

I just got off the phone after about an hour of my granddaughter, Mackenzie, talking nonstop. I think I might have gotten 3 sentences in! It was so wonderful.




Sheryl - I'm praying for you next.

Thanks Judy - I hope my Grandson talks non-stop to me when he's old enough to "talk". LOL That must have been so wonderful.

[judy]

Originally Posted by rivermom

Thanks Judy - I hope my Grandson talks non-stop to me when he's old enough to "talk". LOL That must have been so wonderful.

It was so precious. Isn't life strange? It can change in a moment!

[Forgivenmom5]

Judy I am so happy for you!!!!!!!!!! Prayers do still get answered.

[judy]

Hi Debbie,

Yes prayers do get answered. Everyone's prayers for you will be answered too. How do you feel? It's great to see you online!

I made my reservation for Wed. & Thurs. of Thanksgiving at an Inn near my daughter's house. We talked again this morning and she was troubled about me bringing the dogs (Her MIL is allergic, etc., etc.) She was going to try to set the dogs up in a room upstairs - whatever. I told her not to worry, I had already planned to go to a motel since G.L. is being treated for worms. We both agreed that it would be less stressful for me anyway.

Life is good!

[rivermom]

Originally Posted by judy

It was so precious. Isn't life strange? It can change in a moment!

Precious? Yes very much so! I love having the title "Gandma" now. Life strange? Oh more than anything dear! And yes....Things change in a moment so often.

It's all good!

[Janet]

This thread is just so heartwarming. Judy I am just so tickled for you. You are such a good friend and I knew our prayers for your reunion with your daughter would be answered. Just as life can be sniffed out in an instant, so can someone entering....just in an instant. I am so thrilled for you!!!

[Marilyn]

Judy, just wanted to share in the celebration, and tell you how very happy I am for you and this new, wonderful development in your life!!!! I could not imagine being estranged from a daughter who you know has huge health issues. Soooo glad that you are back in contact and are going to get to see them. I'm tearing up typing this. Life is good!!!! Prayers are with you.