Mixed emotions

Janet · 11-20-2007, 02:07 PM

Congratulations Tink. I know you may not feel congratulations are in order, but the arrival of a baby is truly a blessing. In all honesty, most babies are not born at the 'right' time, but loved just as much and more. Your daughter has everything going for her, especially a mother like you.

DianaB · 11-20-2007, 02:46 PM

Just remember, Tink, that God is good and He can take what's wrong and make it right. Good things can come from this. I'll keep your daughter in my prayers.

Tink · 11-20-2007, 02:48 PM

Thank you Janet.
No one was more surprised than I that Katie came to me like she did. For years I've been her worst enemy. She wanted me to tell her Dad for her, and I refused... saying it's HER news to share. So she did call him today and he seems to be taking it quite well.

I'm relieved that she's been to the clinic, and is taking care of things without any prompting from me. She is with 2 of her friends who both have toddlers, so they're able to give her help from their experiences. I think that's a good thing for her right now.

Gina · 11-20-2007, 03:24 PM

Congratulations Tink, this is joyous news. A baby is always a blessing. Like Diana has mention God will provide. The baby will start life with loving parents and wonderful grandparents..

Forgivenmom5 · 11-20-2007, 07:35 PM

Tink, I know that baby will be loved very much and will make you all very happy. It is a scary time but God will see you and your daughter through.

Janet · 11-21-2007, 05:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Tink

Thank you Janet.
No one was more surprised than I that Katie came to me like she did. For years I've been her worst enemy. She wanted me to tell her Dad for her, and I refused... saying it's HER news to share. So she did call him today and he seems to be taking it quite well.

I'm relieved that she's been to the clinic, and is taking care of things without any prompting from me. She is with 2 of her friends who both have toddlers, so they're able to give her help from their experiences. I think that's a good thing for her right now.

It's really a shame that some mothers and daughters have to go through so much turmoil. You've read my remarks about my mother. How sometimes we just can't be in the same room with each other and I've even made the remark that "I love her, I just don't like her very much."

We all know in our hearts that our Mothers/daughters truly love us and we them and when things get tough, we pulled together. This is going to bring you and your daughter even closer, just as my mother's health has brought us closer. God truly has a plan for everything.

DianaB · 11-21-2007, 07:56 AM

I hope that things look a little brighter for you today, Tink. Right now you're in shock over the news but as time goes by you'll find that things are going to work out and you'll become more and more excited about the baby. It will all work out. Believe me.

AngieDoogles · 11-21-2007, 03:24 PM

Wow, Tink! That must have been quite a shock. Like Diana said, I'm sure you'll get more and more excited as time passes. Good luck and Congratulations!

Emmsmom · 11-21-2007, 06:33 PM

I know things are hard now , but I am sure that things will work out. HUGS

judy · 11-26-2007, 11:53 AM

Dear Tink,

I just read this because I was away. I got the same news from my daughter 11 years ago. She was 24, a bit older, and was already living with the father who was an alcoholic, not stable, not a worker, etc. It took her 2 years to "get him" to marry her. I honestly didn't want her to - being a single parent is certainly not the end of the world.

I also went into shock, but now, 11 years and 3 grandchildren later, with much chaos in between because of my SIL, things have turned around and I have learned, again, that God takes care of us all.

I now have 3 beautiful grandchildren, the turmoil between my daughter and I seems to be over and my SIL, at this point, even seems to have turned around.

Your Katie can still go to college if she chooses, and can live out her dreams. She just has to work around the fact that she has a child. With you as her Mom, I'm sure she'll get all the emotional support she'll need.

When I got over the shock, I planned a baby shower for Jessie and made it into a happy thing. I figured I might as well - either way I looked at it, she was still pregnant.

I'll never forget holding Mackenzie about 20 minutes after she was born. I have never seen anything as beautiful. It was like God had sent us an angel for whatever reason he had.

11-20-2007, 02:07 PM	#1
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	Congratulations Tink. I know you may not feel congratulations are in order, but the arrival of a baby is truly a blessing. In all honesty, most babies are not born at the 'right' time, but loved just as much and more. Your daughter has everything going for her, especially a mother like you. __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

11-20-2007, 02:46 PM	#2
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	Just remember, Tink, that God is good and He can take what's wrong and make it right. Good things can come from this. I'll keep your daughter in my prayers. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

11-20-2007, 02:48 PM	#3
Tink Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Rural Wisconsin Posts: 3,707	Thank you Janet. No one was more surprised than I that Katie came to me like she did. For years I've been her worst enemy. She wanted me to tell her Dad for her, and I refused... saying it's HER news to share. So she did call him today and he seems to be taking it quite well. I'm relieved that she's been to the clinic, and is taking care of things without any prompting from me. She is with 2 of her friends who both have toddlers, so they're able to give her help from their experiences. I think that's a good thing for her right now. __________________ 'A simple way to take measure of a country is to look at how many want in.. And how many want out.' England 's Prime Minister Tony Blair'

11-20-2007, 07:35 PM	#5
Forgivenmom5 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 1,409	Tink, I know that baby will be loved very much and will make you all very happy. It is a scary time but God will see you and your daughter through. __________________ ~Debbie~

11-21-2007, 07:56 AM	#7
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	I hope that things look a little brighter for you today, Tink. Right now you're in shock over the news but as time goes by you'll find that things are going to work out and you'll become more and more excited about the baby. It will all work out. Believe me. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

11-20-2007, 03:24 PM	#4
Gina Donating 4WT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 6,025	Congratulations Tink, this is joyous news. A baby is always a blessing. Like Diana has mention God will provide. The baby will start life with loving parents and wonderful grandparents..

11-21-2007, 03:24 PM	#8
AngieDoogles Donating 4WT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 6,509	Wow, Tink! That must have been quite a shock. Like Diana said, I'm sure you'll get more and more excited as time passes. Good luck and Congratulations! __________________ "Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." ~MT

11-21-2007, 06:33 PM	#9
Emmsmom Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 612	I know things are hard now , but I am sure that things will work out. HUGS __________________ MICHELLE

11-26-2007, 11:53 AM	#10
judy Donating 4WT Yakker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Denver, NY Posts: 8,097	Dear Tink, I just read this because I was away. I got the same news from my daughter 11 years ago. She was 24, a bit older, and was already living with the father who was an alcoholic, not stable, not a worker, etc. It took her 2 years to "get him" to marry her. I honestly didn't want her to - being a single parent is certainly not the end of the world. I also went into shock, but now, 11 years and 3 grandchildren later, with much chaos in between because of my SIL, things have turned around and I have learned, again, that God takes care of us all. I now have 3 beautiful grandchildren, the turmoil between my daughter and I seems to be over and my SIL, at this point, even seems to have turned around. Your Katie can still go to college if she chooses, and can live out her dreams. She just has to work around the fact that she has a child. With you as her Mom, I'm sure she'll get all the emotional support she'll need. When I got over the shock, I planned a baby shower for Jessie and made it into a happy thing. I figured I might as well - either way I looked at it, she was still pregnant. I'll never forget holding Mackenzie about 20 minutes after she was born. I have never seen anything as beautiful. It was like God had sent us an angel for whatever reason he had. __________________ *Judy*

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