Going ballistic

[rivermom]

Thoughts are with ya Tink!!

[DianaB]

Good luck, Tink!

[Janet]

Best wishes and love to ya Tink!! I wanted to say so much what Sheryl said. It really is time he moves out. He needs to come home from work and go to bed, this crap of interrupting your sleep is bull! Put a chain around the fridge, maybe he'll get at least one hint.

You are just too good a person for him to treat you this way.

[rivermom]

Wouldn't it be great to have all the perfect answers on parenting? A guarantee that life would be easy with them? Sheesh, wake up Sheryl!!

Out of three kids - one is doing pretty well now. (trust me he had his moments) Another who I just found out doesn't believe in God, and my last one who thinks I'm a stupid mean idiot. It was soooo much easier when they all were young. I think the hardest time is when they are able to look you straight in the eye. Each inch of height means an inch more of issues.

I just keep hope that it all works out....Isn't that all we can do??

LOL - Tink. It would be easy if you could just spank his bottom and send him to his room. A little time out sorta say right?

A reminder to all us Mom's with adult kids....Deep breath, deeeep breath! *sigh*
A reminder to those with itty bitty kids....Deep breath it will only get worse! ha haaa *sigh*

[Janet]

So far, my son and I are very close and he gives me no problems.....but he's also smart enough to know I'd sell his car in less than a minute!!!.....LOL

[judy]

Sheryl - you are so right! The bigger they get, the bigger the problems.

Dear Tink,

You know I feel for you and certainly support you, both for your sake and for your son's. He does have to learn to live on his own.

I have to say though that dh (Greg) is a sweetheart. Although it's not working out, his motives are so loving. I'm so glad that you're married to such a kind man.

You'll work it out. Worst case scenario, change the locks or move, leaving no forwarding address! Seriously, it will happen.

[Tink]

Thanks all.
I pulled Greg aside yesterday and talked with him again about this situation. He said "We can't throw them out just before the holidays!"
So instead of inconveniencing them, I have to keep on living this way.

I love my kids... and my tenderhearted man... but I'm really quite tired of being the one left behind to deal with them 24/7 when they refuse to grow up! So Merry friggin Christmas... I don't even know where I'm supposed to try to put up a tree.

Doug sleeps on the couch and has all his clothes, a small safe, etc stuffed into one corner of the living room. Joel put 2 huge and 4 smaller speakers in the living room to have surround sound on the tv. And this is all above and beyond the usual living room furniture.

Our dining area is in the kitchen, so there's no extra space there either.


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[katepoet]

Have them rent a small storage unit for a month and put there junk there- all of it! Then tell them the end of that rental period is the day they must be out! It sucks for th holiday, I know, but at least you can demand your space be tidy and less cluttered with their detritus. Even out in the country, craigslist is a great place to find rentals, short and long term.

[Janet]

Okay, you could get a set of bunk beds or two and move ALL the kids and their things into one bedroom. When they start feeling crowded maybe they'll leave. You know we're on your side..right? We love ya Brenda!!!

[Gina]

Originally Posted by Tink

Thanks all.
I pulled Greg aside yesterday and talked with him again about this situation. He said "We can't throw them out just before the holidays!"
So instead of inconveniencing them, I have to keep on living this way.

I love my kids... and my tenderhearted man... but I'm really quite tired of being the one left behind to deal with them 24/7 when they refuse to grow up! So Merry friggin Christmas... I don't even know where I'm supposed to try to put up a tree.

Doug sleeps on the couch and has all his clothes, a small safe, etc stuffed into one corner of the living room. Joel put 2 huge and 4 smaller speakers in the living room to have surround sound on the tv. And this is all above and beyond the usual living room furniture.

Our dining area is in the kitchen, so there's no extra space there either.

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Tink you are in a bad position. Your husband sounds like the nicest man. If your not going to put them out, btw I am a softie to. lol Just set grounds rules, remind them this is your HOUSE. Today if you get some time make a list of dos and don'ts and stick to your guns. Tell them that you do not run a hotel here and that he is being inconsiderate coming in from work late , doing laundry and whatever he does.. Schedule a laundry time, he has to get up a little earlier in the day. Sorry.

Tink I have my son at home who is still in college. He is a good boy, but he is lazy does nothing around the house. It is like pulling teeth to get him to walk Gucci during the day. I admit I am an italian mother who caters to him so it is my fault. He is doing great in school so I slack off on him. I am bothering him now to go get a part time job for the holidays.My daughter dorms at school when that beauty comes home she does nothing either.. She is always studying and stressed how can I bother her. So yep I am guilty too. Like Sheryl said it is hard being a parent , no manuals to guide you.. Good luck!