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[DianaB]

I agree with Janet that when you talk to your parents you need to come across as a young person with maturity to handle your problems. It sounds like your parents are trying to protect you from something but just aren't coming out and saying what. It's hard to let our children know that we're afraid that they could get in harms way when we're not around. I'm dealing with problems myself with my 15 year old daughter. Not that there's any problems, it's just that I don't want any problems to come up. She's just started dating and I've had to be very open with her about some of the rules that I have and what my expectations are for her future. She's being so very cooperative and listens to what I have to say. But my experience comes from already raising 3 other kids and this is my last child. I guess what I'm trying to say is that communication is very important on both sides. Maybe you can convince them to tell you what's troubling them. Maybe you should communicate to them what your expections are for your future and how you're preparing for it. Good luck!

[Janet]

Good advice Diana!!! She does have the experience Nicole. I hope we helped in some way.

[judy]

Nicole,

Everything works out in the end! My mother and I didn't get along. She hated my first husband before we got married. I moved out finally, and after 4 1/2 years of marriage, we got divorced. Where did I go with my baby? Home to Mama - who, no matter how we fought over everything, took me in without hesitation and with open arms.

I hated my daughter's husband. In fact, we didn't talk for 3 years, I didn't see her or my grandchildren. It was terrible. We finally reconciled and now I love him! That marriage was meant to be.

You never know what's going to happen in life, but your mother will always have you in her heart. Do what you have to for your life. You have every right to be happy in your own way, but keep a place for your mother in your heart too.