OMG ! Stealing!

[Tiramisu]

That's a tough one. I think I would work a meeting with all four of you, so everything's out in the open and maybe the girl learns that she can't steal, lie, and cover things up. My main concern is that the girl might try to give your daughter a hard time at school?!

[Emmsmom]

Yeah thats what bothers me that she might say something to Emmie. I actually think that she would just ignore Emmie more than anything. As for all of us sitting down... Well that won't happen. Her mother doesn't really give a rip about what she does. I have only talked to her mom long enough to say hi and bye. She didn't even call to make sure that it was ok that she spent the night. She never even called to check on her or to even let her know what time to be home. They even have a lady from the court system coming over every now and then to talk to them. At this point I just want her clothes back. I feel sorry for her I really do. I don't mind helping her but not at the expense of my own daughter.

[Janet]

I would get the items back in a heart beat!!! By letting it go..you're condoning her actions. Next time she stays....(yes you can forgive her,) check her stuff before she leaves. I hope it all works out and you get the items back. Clothing is too expensive to just let someone take it.

[Dobie]

I definately think her mother should be involved. Bringing the items to school might cause problems for your daughter - who knows what would be said to the other kids.

[DianaB]

I think that I would go by the house when the girl's home from school and ask her to get the shirts that she has of your daughter's. Usually children are intimidated by adults so you might be able to get them back that a way. You can pretend that she borrowed them to the Mom and that you just wanted them returned to your daughter because they were special gifts. Then wait there until you have them in hand. Having your husband in the car with you might be good too. Or have him go up to the house and ask for the shirts. Men intimidate women. Good luck!

[katcarasella]

I agree with Diane, but I wouldn't be inviting her back for a sleep over again. Who knows what kind of influence she could have on your daughter. This young lady would have to earn you and your daughters trust again before I'd let her be a friend.

[Emmsmom]

I think that is what I am going to do. My husband thinks that my daughter needs to ask for them back. He said she needs to grow a spine. LOL She is very shy but slowly coming out of it. So I plan on letting her know at the bus stop this afternoon that it wasn't ok to BORROW the clothes without asking first and that we are going to follow her home so that my daughter can pick them up. I will let you know how it goes. LOL