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Old 09-07-2008, 04:43 PM   #1
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You've admitted that you and this guy have had problems from the very beginning. I think that it's time to move on. You deserve someone who treasures you and treats you like you deserve to be treated.

You mentioned that you come from a "broken family" and I'm sure you don't want to repeat this in your own life and relationships. You need to start making GOOD choices NOW. I can tell you what I think you should do but ultimately you have to make the choices. And like I said GOOD CHOICES. Choices that you make with your head.....not your heart. These are decisions that will affect you for the rest of your life and you need to choose carefully. Don't worry about hurting his feelings, only consider what is right for you.
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Old 09-07-2008, 09:41 PM   #2
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You've admitted that you and this guy have had problems from the very beginning. I think that it's time to move on. You deserve someone who treasures you and treats you like you deserve to be treated.

You mentioned that you come from a "broken family" and I'm sure you don't want to repeat this in your own life and relationships. You need to start making GOOD choices NOW. I can tell you what I think you should do but ultimately you have to make the choices. And like I said GOOD CHOICES. Choices that you make with your head.....not your heart. These are decisions that will affect you for the rest of your life and you need to choose carefully. Don't worry about hurting his feelings, only consider what is right for you.
thank you diana.. i will keep this in mind !
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Old 09-08-2008, 05:43 AM   #3
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Take Gina's advice please, run like hell, it only gets worse when you get married.. trust me on this issue... they only change for awhile to suit your wants and there right back to where they started from in the beginning!!!
Your single with no kids!!! Walk away, there are so many nice single men out there you will find another one to take his place.
there is my 2 cents and i'm getting off this thread....
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Old 09-09-2008, 11:16 AM   #4
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My opinion is that, no matter what anyone tells you or shares with you here, you are going to make excuses for him and yourself. I think you both need counseling..PRONTO!

You sound very immature, so as another poster advised, do not bring babies into your life until you've grown up and figured out that it's not OK to hit anyone ever for any reason (unless of course you are defending yourself against a physical attack) No excuses. I don't see how you can't understand that. Until you do, you don't need to be in any relationship.

He sounds like a ticking time bomb and the next time it might be worse! As long as you keep making excuses and don't do anything to change the situation, nothing will change. You're in for a lot of grief.
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Old 09-09-2008, 12:49 PM   #5
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My opinion is that, no matter what anyone tells you or shares with you here, you are going to make excuses for him and yourself. I think you both need counseling..PRONTO!

You sound very immature, so as another poster advised, do not bring babies into your life until you've grown up and figured out that it's not OK to hit anyone ever for any reason (unless of course you are defending yourself against a physical attack) No excuses. I don't see how you can't understand that. Until you do, you don't need to be in any relationship.

He sounds like a ticking time bomb and the next time it might be worse! As long as you keep making excuses and don't do anything to change the situation, nothing will change. You're in for a lot of grief.

I'm sorry JingleT, but we just don't accept attacks here. She was asking for advice, all of us gave her the advice we thought best. Yes most were different in some ways, but none made such a harsh statement.

I want to welcome you to 4WT, but hope you will post with a kinder heart.
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Old 09-09-2008, 03:22 PM   #6
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I agree with Janet , Jingles you did come off so hard on the poor girl.. The way you post sounds like you know her and know that she will not listen.. So what !she asked we all gave our opinions who are we to tell her to heed to us. You were out of line.. We are not professionals..

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Old 09-09-2008, 08:50 PM   #7
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My opinion is that, no matter what anyone tells you or shares with you here, you are going to make excuses for him and yourself. I think you both need counseling..PRONTO!

You sound very immature, so as another poster advised, do not bring babies into your life until you've grown up and figured out that it's not OK to hit anyone ever for any reason (unless of course you are defending yourself against a physical attack) No excuses. I don't see how you can't understand that. Until you do, you don't need to be in any relationship.

He sounds like a ticking time bomb and the next time it might be worse! As long as you keep making excuses and don't do anything to change the situation, nothing will change. You're in for a lot of grief.
i am immature? how? and when did i ever say i am going to have a child? i am 23 and i said he is or was my bf.. and i didnt make excuses.. depression and family issues are a huge huge thing right now for me and i was saying in my post (if you even read that far) that he was the only one there for me so its not easy for me to just let him go.

as far as the hitting thing.. ive already gave my opinion on that as you did too.. take it or leave it.

thank you janet, gina and everyone else who gave their opinions.. im taking it all into consideration.
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Old 09-10-2008, 02:34 AM   #8
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We know our advice may not be what you want to hear...it's that way with me too. I usually know the right thing to do, but actually doing it can be a real struggle with the heart.

I think I was the one who brought up the 'child' thing in the first place. My advice was not to start a family or have a baby with this man before you get everything straightened out. That was all.

I do wish you the best in whatever you decide to do. We're here if you need us and please don't shy away from asking for more advice. There will be a lot of different opinions and you just need to take a little from all that will work for you.
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Old 09-10-2008, 03:15 AM   #9
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i know i was going to stay out of this thread but i can't , Janet i also brought up the "child thing", if you are 23 years old, you are likely having sex with this man, and there is always a chance of getting pregnant if you are having sex.. If any man hits you once out of anger, whatever the excuse is, he will hit you again.
I think you two really need to sit down and talk about your relationship, maybe take some time apart.. Date other people.. Just do whats best for yourself!.. Talk to God about it.. That's what i do when i'm down...
I just don't want you to go thru what i went thru, i would just walk away for now..
But it's your dissussion. if you think you can work it out, it's going to take alot, alot, alot of hard work for both of you!
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