So tired, can't sleep

[Janet]

Lindsey, even if she doesn't have someone over often, I would still let her know that if and when she does again, that you would appreciate her controlling the noise...that you don't want to hear it. Ask how she would feel if you did it and kept her awake? If talking to her doesn't work...then knock loudly on the wall, that ought to make the snake shrivel up...LOL

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by Janet

Lindsey, even if she doesn't have someone over often, I would still let her know that if and when she does again, that you would appreciate her controlling the noise...that you don't want to hear it. Ask how she would feel if you did it and kept her awake? If talking to her doesn't work...then knock loudly on the wall, that ought to make the snake shrivel up...LOL

LOL!!!!!!!! That was great, you got a smile out of me
I just don't know how to even bring it up to her. If she mentions a guy she met, or a guy she brought home, or whatever, I can just say "Yeah I heard it" but if she doesn't bring anything up at all, I don't think I can. I did make sure my facebook status mentioned how I haven't slept since 2 am... this girl LIVES on facebook so I'm sure she'll see that. I'm just trying to be subtle because I don't want to barge in and be angry about it... I don't want to ruin the friendship further and make it impossible to live together...

[Janet]

The next time you see her, just come right out and tell her. Just say...."I almost forgot, I wanted to mention something to you. The other night with you had a guest, I don't want to embarass you, but I could hear what was going on and it kept me awake. If you could, I'd really appreciate you trying to keep it a little more quiet, I would really appreciate it".

I think that sounds nice and respectful without coming down like a madwoman. I on the other hand would have walked in their room and thrown some ice water on them, tell them I need my sleep and watched it shrivel up like a prune...lolo

[Gina]

Lindsey Janet is right... I am a good hearted person but if I get mad or someone is disrespecting me I just tell it like it is.. Sorry, you need your sleep and yes it is hard to live with someone else and I never had the pleasure of moving out before I got married. So I am can only imagine..

Being you are close friends with her since childhood, you can speak your mind. Tell her that she is being very inconsiderate to you , explaining that you don't care whom she sleeps with it, that it is a problem when it interfers with your sleep. If she doesn't stop do as Janet suggested or just knock on the dam door and tell them to stop.. embarrass them!! If not you may have to find another place and let her know that.. Sorry not sleeping is very nerve racking, no pun intended lol. I feel for you. Just let her know how you feel nicely of course...lol

Lindsey I am sure she will oblige once you tell her.. Good luck!

[Janet]

Hey Lindsey...you could record it and then every night turn it up loud or hook some big speakers to the recorder and play it all night long....LOL. Yeah, I know....I'm a stinker!

[Lindsey]

lol oh Janet... I wish you and my roommate could trade places, I think you'd be a lot more fun to live with!!!
Well I couldn't make it through the whole day... I went shopping with my mom while my dad was fixing my grandma's steps today, and I almost passed out in the store. I got back to my grandma's and crashed hard for about 2 hours, and I woke up just in time for my parents to be leaving
I just got home and my roommate left a message on my facebook saying she's sooooooooooo sorry if they woke me up last night, but she was just really drunk. And as I'm reading that message, she's sitting in the living room, loudly talking on the phone and bragging about this guy. It turns out he's actually a much older guy from the little village beside our hometown. MUCH older, I'm assuming, because I don't even recognize his name and I'm older than she is.
Anyways, as she's bragging about how she ran into him in the bar and she barely recognized him but he knew her name and he actually wanted to come home with her, and neither of them ever thought that would happen, etc, I'm thinking to myself "He came in, had sex with you very loudly for a couple of minutes, and IMMEDIATELY got up, got dressed, and asked if the door was locked because he wanted to leave. No rest, no talking, just sex and leave. Is that really something to brag about? Do you realize how badly you just got used? Doesn't that even bother you???" But apparently not.
I'm really thirsty but as soon as I open my door she's right there, so I'm cooping myself in my room until she's not out there anymore. I just really am too tired and frustrated to face her.

[pope1982]

Wow, having been on the other side of that wall, and really drunk... I would say, it happens.
She did apologize, so I'd say yes between the crying and the over analyzing on whether or not this was a personal assault against you and your house, you are over reacting. I heard the people upstairs going at it all the time, I actually think it is kind of funny and sometimes mock his "big finale" at the end when the bed squeaks really fast for about 10 seconds like clockwork every time.

Like you said, she was just basically used and is obviously in denial or completely heartless. Kind of have to feel sorry for her.

Maybe it is time to reevaluate the monthly budget and get a place solo if you are so set in your ways and sensitive about problems that arise with room mates. Either that or invest in a pair of ear plugs.
Good luck with whatever you decide!