If you could go back, would you marry your husband again?

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by Cribal

Well, I wasn't going to post until I saw Janets post. I didn't want to be the only one to say no. Last month was our first year anniversary and it was the longest year. If I could turn back time then I wouldn't marry my husband. I feel really bad for saying that but I wish I would have stuck with what I had said most of my life and never gotten married. I guess it's too late now so I have to suck it up and deal with it. I'm pretty good with rolling with th punches so I'll be alright.

I like you thought I had made a mistake the first year I was married. We were together 18 months before things got better & now they are great. There is usually an adjustment period. However, if you are unhappy & think you will continue to be unhappy, then seek counseling or get the marriage annuled. Life is too short to spend it unhappy. Just remember that nothing is ever the way you imagine it to be.

[Cribal]

I think councling would be a good idea for us. I don't know if my husband would be to keen on it though. I guess if I told him it was one way or the other then he would probly be ok with it. I am unhappy the majority of the time but he does have his good moments. It's usually only two days out of a month though...=LOL. I really don't want to get divorced. I don't know why but I've always figured that everything can always be worked out. (besides cheating and abuse) I'm hoping it's just the whole first year thing and that things will get better. But, like I said, I'm gonna stick through it. I know that I don't want to be unhappy for the rest of my life but I will find a way to change that without getting divorced.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Cribal

I think councling would be a good idea for us. I don't know if my husband would be to keen on it though. I guess if I told him it was one way or the other then he would probly be ok with it. I am unhappy the majority of the time but he does have his good moments. It's usually only two days out of a month though...=LOL. I really don't want to get divorced. I don't know why but I've always figured that everything can always be worked out. (besides cheating and abuse) I'm hoping it's just the whole first year thing and that things will get better. But, like I said, I'm gonna stick through it. I know that I don't want to be unhappy for the rest of my life but I will find a way to change that without getting divorced.

Don't be too sure....

Life is way too short to live it as unhappy. Seek help and if he won't go, go alone.

[Necee419]

I would marry my husband ten times over again. It has been hard because of his illness but he is a wonderful man and we love each other very much. Personally I think it is easy to love when things are going smoothly. It is only when you reach the tough patches in your marriage that you truly realize whether your love is real and strong enough to make it through. For those of you who are going through the rough patches, don't give up! It may seem hard while you are in the moment but if you can withstand the hardships, your marriage will emerge stronger than before. "That which does not kill us, makes us stronger."

[DianaB]

My husband and I were married when we were very young and, as you can guess, we soon had children, and yes, I would marry him again! He's a wonderful Christian man with good morals and a good work ethic. He's wonderfully patient and is the kind of father that every kid wants to have. He babies me and gives me lots of attention. Sometimes I feel so spoiled. I'm not saying that there's not things that I wouldn't change, but I could never find another man to ever take his place. Since we started so young I have always considered myself to be blessed that I made a right choice. I could have so easily at 17 married Mr. Wrong. We've had our ups and downs but we've always managed to work it out and we've never used the "D" word (divorce). We've been married for 32 years!

[rivermom]

Oh you betcha I would!!

[Kimberley]

If I knew then what I know now? I would have NOT married this husband or the previous one, either. Hell, I would never get married.

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Kimberley

If I knew then what I know now? I would have NOT married this husband or the previous one, either. Hell, I would never get married.

I'm with ya on this one!!!! I figure men should have a hook on the back of their neck, fine when ya need 'em, if not, hang 'em in the back of the closet!!

[Ponyup]

Originally Posted by Janet

I'm with ya on this one!!!! I figure men should have a hook on the back of their neck, fine when ya need 'em, if not, hang 'em in the back of the closet!!

If this was true Janet, your husband would be all dusty & eaten by moths by now, right?

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Ponyup

If this was true Janet, your husband would be all dusty & eaten by moths by now, right?

NAAAwww he has balls, oh excuse me, they have to be moth balls don't they. Duh!!! I need him to do things around the house, but so far nothing, I'll do it myself this weekend, I need him to do things outside...but I'll do that probably next weekend. So yea!!! it's all true....it's my story and I'm sticking to it!!! LOL

[BabyNicole]

Originally Posted by Kimberley

If I knew then what I know now? I would have NOT married this husband or the previous one, either. Hell, I would never get married.

Girl you are so funny!!! Wish you were happy!! But you are still a hoot!

[Janet]

You ladies sure don't have to worry about people like Cribal and myself. I think, or at least know for myself, that if I was absolutely miserable, I'd be gone. We still have great times, doesn't mean I don't care for him.....I just would not do it again knowing what I know now!