Horrible day..

[gja1000]

There is an old saying something like, "If you love something, let it go" I know your mom loves your sister and her family, but part of loving them is helping them to be self sufficient, productive members of society. Some people can't learn until they are forced into that situation. Yes, it is painful, difficult and almost any other difficult concept you can think of - but it is the right thing to do, especially for the younger family members. Some can't do it though, and that is sad.

Best of luck!

[judy]

I'm so sorry you had to listen to this nonsense. I have learned (finally!) to not get into it with people like that. I either very quickly get off the phone, or just walk away asap. I usually don't say much. I never respond to their BS.

I think it's probably too late for your Mom to change. Your sister is not your problem. You don't need to prove to her that you're right. You and your Mom know that you are. Like Dr. Phil says, "Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?"

In other words, screw it. Ignore your sister, in my opinion.

What happened to the dog?

[Janet]

Great advice Judy...Dr. Phil is good.

[DianaB]

Phones are made for hanging up. I don't like to do it but there are times that that option is available to you. Learn to either avoid getting into conversation with your sister or let her know that it's a subject you don't want to discuss with her. If she doesn't have anything good to say.....you don't want to hear it. Sorry. Sometimes families can be so difficult!! {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

[Dobie]

Sorry to hear that you had an argument with your sister - but like the others have said, take comfort in the fact that you know what the truth is.

[Shada]

Thanks for the replies and support.

Haven't talked to my sister since the 'arguement'. I really don't care if I ever do again... she is my sister, but not my friend..

Things haven't really changed for mom... nor will it untill she finally says enough is enough, but she never will. Mom has a heart of gold and thinks she is helping them... all she is doing is making them dependant on her.. when she is no longer able to take care of them, they will grow up fast.. their world as they know it will end.

Judy, the yorkie is still with mom. Such a little lovebug, mom loves her dearly.

[judy]

I'm so glad that your Mom and the yorkie are happy. That's the bottom line, and it worked out so nicely.