Ex... still!

[pope1982]

I am a firm believer in things like: all things happen for a reason, you are the chooser of your own happiness/destiny and not to live in the past.

The things you miss are not reality anymore. They were material, and a fantasy you struck up in your mind. It is not fair to compare current situations and people to those things you've lost, as nothing is perfect.

If you do not love this man, I would suggest breaking off the relationship, if he is a nice guy, all the more reason to do it quicker. Since you say you have lost your path in life, and your happiness it sounds like you need to go on a trip of self discovery and in order to do that, you must be alone. Find how comfortable it can be being alone and finding that company within yourself...

The hurt, anger, all of that will not go away until you are ready to let it go. Everything that has happened in your life, molds you into the person you become. It is up to you what you will make of your lifes journey it is never too late, until it is too late!

And one more thing, indecision on big steps like those are normal.
I have gone back and forth a million times with myself and my soon to be husband on the subject of having kids for many reasons.
It is a really big and sometimes scary if you allow yourself to over think it enough, change in your life. Be grateful it didn't happen in your previous situation. Now if and when it happens, you will be able to truly enjoy the experience rather than feel regret and anger towards yourself.

And marriage can only be appreciated when your heart is truly smiling. Things are moving along for you the right way, don't be discouraged! Everyones journey is different, do not place too much pressure or blame on yourself.

[pope1982]

And can I say, my oldest sister is your age. She has three boys, aged 9-13fathered by three different men and is now in another relationship after a long hard road of many other failed relationships that she ran away from for one reason or another. Some guys were decent and some didn't deserve to be part of her or her childrens lives that she settled for.
I am praying she has found her happiness this time.

I am not that far behind the two of you...marrying at 26. With no real decision of when we will start our family written in stone. And we have been together since 1999.
There is no set age limit on when these life goals are accomplished, go with the flow! You are not old.