Very Hurt.......

[Marilyn]

You've received some good advice here. Take it slow and try not to burn any bridges. She may not have realized that she was excluding some of the people she did. Also, have you checked to see if the people were invited. They may have been and not been able to attend.

When our daughter Melissa was married, we learned that one branch of the family that was a total no-show, thought that they weren't really invited because their invitations did not include response cards. None of the invitations included response cards because we were not serving food other than cake and punch at the reception. They felt we were snubbing them & we sincerely were not.

Sometimes there are unintensional oversights or misunderstandings.

[judy]

Linda,

I am so sorry you are so hurt. Your daughter's actions seem to be making a statement, and not a very nice one as far as you and your family are concerned.

I was excluded from my daughter's life for 3 years and did not see my grandchildren. We have reconciled, and it is a miracle because we have all really just forgiven and gone on. I am very careful though, because I was so broken hearted for those 3 years, I just could not go through that again.

It might be less hurtful for you if you expect nothing from her. She will most likely, come to her senses at some point. At this moment though, I think it's pretty clear how she feels about you and your side of the family. That is a tragedy and so hurtful, but it is what it is for right now. It would be so sad if you expected more from her right now and lost your relationship with your grandson and the new baby.

I am sorry if I sound matter of fact and harsh about it, but, having been there, I would hate to see you end up the same way.