Prayer for my son

[DianaB]

I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this Donna. It's so hard to see loved ones ruin their lives with drugs. It sounds like you've tried to help him in the past and I think that sometimes you have to let them face the consequences of their actions. It's very hard to do but hopefully it will be a wake up call. I'm saying a prayer for you and your son right this minute. Hugs!!

[Janet]

Donna, I am so sorry you are so shaken by this. Drugs can do so much damage and I think you're absolutely right by not bailing him out. Let him sit and think if it's really worth it. Is there anyway he would enter a rehab program?

I will keep you and your son in my prayers.

[donna1990]

Thank you Diana.
You to Janet. My oldest son has been clean for 5 years, he is very active in N/A. He has tried to help Troy before but he didn't stick with it. He tried to call me this morning, it was collect of course and I was not home. That is how I found out he was in jail. If he does call, I will tell him that I can't bail him out and the only thing I CAN do is pray and find a Bible in the jail and start reading.

[Tiramisu]

Donna, my thoughts are with you and your son!

[donna1990]

I just pulled him up and his mug shots make me sick, he does not even look like my son.
I just called the jail and he is still there and they are taking care of his insulin.
Oh God, I have been going through this for 25 years,

[donna1990]

I just pulled his record up and the mug shots make me ill. He does not even look like my son.

[Blueyes]

Oh Donna! I'm so sorry for you both. At least you know where he will be sleeping at night and is being fed. Don't feel guilty for not bailing him out...they don't call it tough love for nothing. Try to get some rest...bless your heart

[gja1000]

Donna, you are doing the right thing - he is an adult and he must take care of himself, as hard as that might be for him.

My sister-in-law bailed out her son, my nephew, so many times, and then she paid big bucks for him to go into residential drug treatment TWICE - he still got out and did drugs. He was a lawyer - you'd think he'd know better. Of course, he lost his law license and finally, my sil had to let him go to jail. There comes a point when you just can no longer rescue them, you have to let nature take its course. You just have to and you have nothing to feel guilty about.

Of course you love him and you feel badly for him, but he has made the wrong choices, and you can't change that.

I hope you can find some peace. Have you gone to Narc Anon, or some group help for family of an addict? If you have, then call someone or if you haven't, now would be the time.

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this.