She's Back In The Hospital Again.

[Janet]

So far, and I know it's soon, but things have really been good. I know it won't always be, we'll have our moments I'm sure, but she knows I'm trying my hardest to take care of her and she tells me she loves me all the time. I love her too.

[JJJ]

Everyone can tell you love your mom, your the best daughter she can ever have.

I'm so glad she is still doing good.

[Janet]

I think I hurt her feelings a little bit. We were in the kitchen and Lynne called. I hadn't spoke with Lynne for a few days and I missed her. I sat at the kitchen table and talked for a moment and then went to the living room. Toward the end of Lynne and I's conversation, Mom came in and something about me leaving the room to talk on the phone. I said that was kind of rude and then she said I was rude for leaving the room. She said there was no reason to leave if I was talking to Betty (my SIL). I told her that I wasn't talking to Betty and that there are times when I want to speak with my friends in private.

It was just one of the hurdles we will be facing, but we got through it...had a nice supper and then shared some laughter.

[gja1000]

Boundaries Janet. They are important. You will drive yourself crazy if you don't have boundaries. You are not a couple. It is hard but important. Let her know that you love her and will be there for her but that there will be things and times that she won't be a part of. It just has to be that way or you will lose yourself and you will not be happy. It was not rude of you to leave the room and your mom needs to understand that your life does not completely revolve around her. Again it is hard but necessary.

[Blueyes]

Yes Janet...what Gayle said

[JJJ]

Lol, a bit of jealously there.

[judy]

It sounds like you handled it well, even though you probably feel guilty. Guilt sucks, but sometimes you have to live with it or else.....what Gayle said!

[Janet]

Quilt does suck, but I really didn't feel guilty. It mostly made me angry, but I held my anger in check and let her know that there will be things I won't share. I loved your advice Gayle...it's so true and I'm going to make sure the boundaries are set and enforced.

[DianaB]

I agree with Gayle. I hope that you're able to put some boundries in place with your Mom. You're a good daughter and I know that you're going to look back one day and be glad that you did this for your Mom!!!

[Janet]

I know... It sure is a lot harder than I thought it would be, but we're doing good. I'm tired alot because I have to get up with her during the night when she has to go potty. It'll work out somehow...where there is a will there is a way.