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[gja1000]

I agree with Janet - it's not so much that you don't care - you just can't afford to expend any negative energy with the situation. Oh, I know it upsets you regarding your sil - and it should since you know the situation to be untrue. Janet is also right, these types are toxic and - if you let them - they will suck the energy right out of you!

I'm sorry you have to deal with this, and beleive me, I know, it is doubly difficult in a small town!!!

[DianaB]

I know what you mean about being toxic. I will look over this.........again. It's just that it's fresh and I'm upset. It seems like she always has some insensitive remark to make......and once, just once I'd like to just stand up to her and say "Enough!!" I won't because I don't want to make the whole family mad at me, but I guess, I can dream!!! LOL

[Janet]

The only thing you can do....is if you are in her presence when she says something appalling or disrespectful....call her on it instead of letting it go.....I always ask..."why would you say something like that?"

[gja1000]

Originally Posted by Janet

The only thing you can do....is if you are in her presence when she says something appalling or disrespectful....call her on it instead of letting it go.....I always ask..."why would you say something like that?"

Janet, that is an excellent suggestion! "Why would you say something like that?" is throwing the ball back into her court. And depending on your tone of voice, if not an "accusing" voice, but a questioning voice, then it might be interesting as to the answer you get! I really like that - and I have used it in the past in somewhat similar situations - actually I wanted to tell the person to "SHUT THE F UP", but "Why would you say that" is much less inflammatory!!!

[DianaB]

That's a good suggestion!! I'll keep that in mind!! Thanks!

[Chandra Amaya]

These are the things that make me recall how happy I am to be divorced.

[Gina]

Diana sometimes in life we have to stand up for ourselves and say ENOUGH ALREADY! Just do it in a loving non confrontal way, just get the point through. It's one thing to have someone always pick on you but when it spirals to the rest of your family, it has to end at some point..