I knew this would be trouble!!!

[gja1000]

Oh Judy! You are between a rock and a hard place!!! I knew he/they would be insulted if you didn't have him do the work - and his bringing up that you had someone else install the dishwasher was insulting to him - confirms that he would be mad if you didn't have him install the floor. This is really really hard! And he is being an a$$ and I would be really mad too!

I have absolutely NO advice - my friends/family are so different. I grew up in the country where we all helped each other with everything, and no one paid anyone anything. My friends/family would NEVER take any money for helping us and visa versa. My son-in-law worked with my husband for two 12 hour days installing our wood floor and would have died if we'd offered him any money. But that is just the way we grew up - we all helped each other. Our son-in-law took out our old dishwasher, hauled it off, and installed the new one, and a friend of Gary's did the same for our old dishwasher. Gary's friend took out our old water heater and put in a new one (they were soooo heavy!) and when I offered him some money - he looked at me like I had two heads.

I understand paying your son-in-law for big jobs like the floor installation, since he isn't working and needs the money - but I don't understand your paying him for things like installing a fan, hanging pictures, etc etc.