Nice "friend"

[Lindsey]

So she was pumped all day about going out to a halloween cabaret tonight, and i was pumped all day about being able to do homework, with three reports due tomorrow, and maybe get some sleep. But before I knew it, she was walking right in the front door. I said "aren't you going out?" and she made a sad face and said "no, i have a headache. I think I'm starting to get sick." and I said "Well then, stay away from me." she rolled her eyes at me and said "yeah okay" and she went downstairs. I'm still getting over being sick from the last time she was sick.
My boyfriend called again tonight and I told him the situation again (and complained loud enough for both her and my roommate to hear), and he was like "You know what, if you want to get mad at her, just do it. It's not going to ruin anything with us or my friends. More than anything, we all just think she's really annoying, and what she's doing to you is just selfish and uncalled for."
I hope I have the courage to do this.

[Janet]

Good luck Lindsey! Don't worry about courage...just tell her "look, I have homework, studying, and things that I need to get done. If you're going to be here, then you need to help clean, cook...and HELP WITH THE RENT and then show her what her share is. That ought to scare her!

If you don't think that will work...just tell her flat out how you feel and tell her you want to keep her as a friend, but it won't happen if she doesn't give you space. Your apartment is YOUR space and make it clear.

[Mandy]

Sounds like your friend needs to use her common sense!! Doesnt she have homework to do or clean her place or anything?

Start countdown now Lindsey, your almost there!

[Lindsey]

Well we both get about the same amount of sleep, but she just sleeps all day in school. There's NO WAY I could do that, so I come home after school and usually have a little nap, while she does her homework after school. Also, her project advisor isn't expecting as much of her as mine is of me, so I work on my project a LOT whenever I have a free minute, but she's barely touched hers. And when she's really behind, she just comes over and copies off my roommate.

[khardy57]

You're a better person than I am. This would've been hashed out a long time ago if it were me. You need to talk to her again and lay it on the line. I wouldn't worry about hurting feelings, because she's not worried about how her behavior is affecting you.

[Lindsey]

Originally Posted by khardy57

You're a better person than I am. This would've been hashed out a long time ago if it were me. You need to talk to her again and lay it on the line. I wouldn't worry about hurting feelings, because she's not worried about how her behavior is affecting you.

I wouldn't say "better", just more of a wimp! Before she told me she wouldn't compromise our friendship for anything, but that's definitely not how she feels now. This morning I was leaving for school at the same time she was leaving my house, and she just came upstairs, put on her shoes, and walked outside without a word to me. She made it to school halfway through first class, and my roommate didn't make it for the first two classes at all. Their grades aren't suffering because I just found out they both bought old assignments off past graduates and are just copying those for every class. So I hope they have fun in the real world.

[Lindsey]

GOOD NEWS! I feel like a horrible person for being so happy about this, but my roommate told her on Friday that he wants to stop "doing what they're doing" Soooooooo I'm going to sleep at night for the next 5 weeks! I was really starting to worry about what was going to happen at final exam time!