The last day and my MIL........

[Janet]

You know you can vent anytime you'd like dear friend. I can understand your hurt and resentment. When a mother feels her children are not being treated right she becomes that protective unrecognizable bear...lol. Who could blame us?

I'm glad for the most part that you had a good time. It's nicer to have good memories instead of negative ones. Diana...I don't remember exactly why your MIL was in the hospital. There is no way she can live on her own? Will she be staying in Nebraska with Brenda?

I'm glad you're home safe and sound.

[paula1961]

First off I would like to say that I would love to go to Brenda's house just to see the animals! I heard those little donkey's are mean! But they are soooooo cute! Secondly I think your mil giving that quilt to someone other than Amy is just plain wrong! I mean if she doesn't want you to have something of hers, well whatever, but Amy is her grand daughter. What is her problem? I totally understand why you were so upset Diana. And I'm very sorry that she put you through this!

I'm sure Jaci's wedding is going to be beautiful!

You are a very special person Diana!

[Blueyes]

You know Diana, I have heard of a lot of people that think like your mil. The sons get the dad's stuff and the daughters get the mom's stuff. It leaves out the in-laws all the way around! Mike is an only child, so when his parents were gone we didn't have to share with anybody. But in their will they left half to Mike and the other half to be divided between our boys. Now that was fine with me because that's what we would have done anyway. BUT if Mike had died before they did, I would have been completely left out..and they knew this. We got along ok and they depended on ME for EVERYTHING, and I took very, very good care of them both.

I will NEVER treat my son's wives like an "in-law". They are my girls and they always will be.

Did you say anything to her about the quilt? Grrr...

[DianaB]

Janet, my MIL had a heart attack in 1990 and since then has only had about 24% of her heart working. She did absolutely nothing before that happened and does even less than that now. When she's home she has kitchen chairs that are on wheels and literally scoots herself around her two rooms. I've told Glen that I didn't know that a person could live so long doing absolutely NOTHING!!!

She has also developed rheumatoid arthritis, diabetes, and congestive heart failure. A few years ago she had surgery on a hernia that was, not joking, the size of a basketball. We weren't sure that she would survive the surgery but she had a good doctor.

She was put in the hospital because she has sleep apnea and refuses to wear the night time mask and her body was suffering from lack of oxygen.

Paula, you would enjoy seeing Brenda's animals. They are all friendly. She has quite a way with animals. If you're ever in Nebraska I know that she'd love to have you stop by. She also has a Christmas Tree farm so she's a very busy woman but never too busy for company!!!!

Betsi, my MIL just wants HER stuff to go to her daughters. I've known this for some time and it's been a sore spot for me. I've dealt with this for years and years. I have just decided that I would rather not have ANYTHING of hers but my kids have a few things they'd like. I don't think that I even want to buy anything if it's sold at an auction. I'm just done with her. I have half a mind to even return the few things that she's given me, but that's being naughty on my part. It's really sad. (Also, anything personal of Frank's, Glen's Dad, went to her daughter's. The rest of us didn't get anything. I'd like to have his billfold or glasses and the case they went in, but I'm afraid to ask for them.......they'll disappear.)

This is how the Lambert family thinks (this is my MIL's maiden name and how her family all thinks).......My son ran into one of her sisters and she made the comment about how watered down the Lambert blood is getting!!!!!......They have never been happy about people marrying into their family!

Janet, I would like to say that I would welcome this woman into my home with open arms but I get so upset over the things that she says and how she treats me. I just couldn't live with her and deal with her every day. Glen asked me what I'd do with my Mom if it were her and I said with no hesitation that she'd come and live with us. My Mom knows how to keep her mouth shut and not cause waves. (she's lived with us before and it was a pleasant experience) plus she would help out and not expect to be waited on.

I just need a chance to cool down. I get all worked up every time I'm around this woman. You can check my other posts on her and see what she does to me. I'm just done.

[judy]

OMG! Mean is mean, Diana, and I don't blame you for wanting to be done with her. How awful for her to use possessions to control people and to hurt people.
I can see why you get hurt. It seems like she wants you to.

It also seems that your children have already figured her out since they don't want much to do with her. If she gives them nothing, they may be prepared for that.

Let her live long and prosper, and may her hoarding get her stuck in a little part of one room!