Just Another Rant...

[Gina]

Originally Posted by Janet

Loved your post Shada...thank you. To me your life sounds really good.




Gina...it's really not just the coffee...it's what set me off...lol. This morning for another instance....the wind had been blowing all night, there are always drifts in front of the garage and in front of my bus. Drifts for the guys were busted through and a path made. I go out to start my bus and well...I have to dig myself out.

My thought....if I have to do everything myself anyway....what do I need him for? I have teeth to get fixed, better job to find and I will have my time...one way or another. I'm not one to give up ....

Janet I know that the coffee is not the problem just giving you a short term solution or just make the dam coffee and tell him not to touch it!! He is very inconsiderate and not acting like a man at all.. sorry to say this but come on making you shovel your own way that really stinks.

In reply to Shada its wonderful that she feels that way, but if I may add something to this equation YOU shoud be able to do all of that even if your married. I had problems awhile back and did marriage counceling.. THAT woke up my husband big time he realized I was not joking about leaving.. I became independent and now I DO WHAT I WANT... I am just trying to make suggestions so that you see that if your not leaving him you can't be miserable day after day . You deserve some happiness for life is short . Talk to him put it all out on the table if you haven't told him how you feel..

I am no expert , just trying to help you out...

[Janet]

You have helped Gina... more than you'll ever know. I pretty much do what I want, go where I want to go...etc. For the most part I'm a very happy person. I just have a lousy marriage.. I've thought about counceling, but I don't know if I want it to work. The feelings just aren't there. Maybe a trial separation would be a good idea...I don't know. I do know I can't support myself right now...not driving a bus. Right now though...I can handle it.

You ladies are the best and sure know how to make me smile. I love ya all!

[judy]

Having enough money is essential Janet. I have faith in your judgement. You will do whatever it takes to be happy! Knowing what a loving Mom you are, I'm sure Ricky's needs are a priority too.

[Janet]

Thanks Judy....you're right....Ricky is number 1.