There's hope!

[RLC12345678]

Tink, that is FANTASTIC news!!!!!!!! Your son sounds SOOO much like my sister's boyfriend. He is also 20 and he has never been able to hold down a steady job or really do well in school either. He has ALWAYS LOVED cars and motors and stuff, so my sister (who is in college) talked him into going to technical school for mechanics. He also got a parttime job at Big 10 Tires changing tires and oil and working on cars. He has never been happier. No matter what it is, they will be successful as long as they are doing something they love. You should encourage your son to try technical school and work parttime like my sister's boyfriend. It only takes about 2 years to get the degree and my sister's boyfriend says that you get paid substantially more if you have it. It's worth looking into for sure!

[Janet]

That a great idea of suggestion Technical School, Rebecca. My son is only 15, but really shows no interest in college. Now his father knows about the mechanics of a car, but makes his living doing auto body repair and frame straightening.

I think these young men with the interest in cars are going to make a decent living and enjoy doing what they do. AND I don't see cars/vehicles going by the wayside anytime soon...LOL

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Janet

That a great idea of suggestion Technical School, Rebecca. My son is only 15, but really shows no interest in college. Now his father knows about the mechanics of a car, but makes his living doing auto body repair and frame straightening.

I think these young men with the interest in cars are going to make a decent living and enjoy doing what they do. AND I don't see cars/vehicles going by the wayside anytime soon...LOL

That is SOOOO true! My sister's boyfriend had NO interestin college, either. But my sister really encouraged him to pursue some sort of higher education. He is doing something he loves. Technical school is a great idea for anyone who is not interested in going to college. College isn't for everyone.

[Tink]

I SO agree with you ladies on the tech school idea!
I wish Joel would enroll, but realize he will have to do things in his own time and way.

He's always been my independent child. He has a very high IQ, but was determined not to be the class brain, so instead, became the class clown and ended up being home schooled from 7th grade on because I was spending almost as much time at the school as he was because of it. He seems to learn by osmosis, and simply can't be bothered to do things that he sees no value or meaning in. He's been a challenge, yet we've always known that if he ever gets in his niche and actually applies himself, he will do well.

He actually wanted to go back to public school in his soph year, and was there less than a semester when he managed to get himself expelled. The square peg in the round hole thing again... So as much as I'd love to see him go back to school, I won't push it because until it's his own idea, it would be a total waste of money. I will just sit back and watch and keep my fingers crossed. LOL

[Janet]

Originally Posted by Tink

I SO agree with you ladies on the tech school idea!
I wish Joel would enroll, but realize he will have to do things in his own time and way.

He's always been my independent child. He has a very high IQ, but was determined not to be the class brain, so instead, became the class clown and ended up being home schooled from 7th grade on because I was spending almost as much time at the school as he was because of it. He seems to learn by osmosis, and simply can't be bothered to do things that he sees no value or meaning in. He's been a challenge, yet we've always known that if he ever gets in his niche and actually applies himself, he will do well.

He actually wanted to go back to public school in his soph year, and was there less than a semester when he managed to get himself expelled. The square peg in the round hole thing again... So as much as I'd love to see him go back to school, I won't push it because until it's his own idea, it would be a total waste of money. I will just sit back and watch and keep my fingers crossed. LOL

Tink you sound like a wonderful patient mother. My hat is off to you. I do know how frustrating it can be. My son never had "problems" at school, just his grades. Part of it has to do with his ADD. If he truely likes the class, then he excells, but if it doesn't really interest him, it's a daily struggle. I'm sure both our sons will excell in whatever they choose as long as they can enjoy it too. Best wishes to you and your son.

[Tink]

Janet, he does sound like Joel.
We fought with the school for years; with them wanting to stick him on Ritalin, (he is NOT hyper in any way) and finally got him tested which proved he had a 152 IQ and was absolutely bored senseless in school. He also had a poor attitude and refused to prove to anyone what he did or did not know. So he wouldn't do homework, tests, or anything that didn't interest him. He's basically a pain in the butt to any teacher who didn't challenge him and earn his respect. He had more than one teacher in tears and one male teacher so mad he was throwing and kicking desks around the room!

He was tested at the beginning of what would have been his 8th grade year (after half a yr of homeschooling) to see if he was keeping up with his peers and ranked at a 12th grade level in all but history, which he was at the 8th grade level in. After that, they just accepted that he would do better being homeschooled and I swear we heard their sigh of relief when we kept him out of school.