help... i have a nightmare coming in 2 weeks

11-09-2006, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Ponyup

I would help with dinner ideas, I'm a northern indiana yankee. However, I think Yuppers (upper Pennisula people) are closer to canadians, so I would PM Lindsey (i think she's from Canada) & see if she has any ideas.

oh yeh... UP'ers are a different breed... i love it up there though... its different but beautiful. his family really is great... when they are in their own element and running the show... i hate to talk bad about them... its just really going to be a feat to make this thanksgiving a good one!

Janet · 11-09-2006, 04:12 PM

I know this will sound so stupid, but I didn't see it anywhere in the posts...

WHO IN THE H*LL INVITED THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE??????

Okay now that I asked that...I would fix whatever you would like to have and know how to fix so that it doesn't stress you. If they don't like good southern food then there will be plenty of restaurants open.

Also, since they are so picky...and know that your apartments are small, why can't they stay in a hotel or something and be more comfortable?

I know I didn't help..LOL but if they invited themselves, fix it so they won't do that again....LOL

RLC12345678 · 11-09-2006, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Janet

I know this will sound so stupid, but I didn't see it anywhere in the posts...

WHO IN THE H*LL INVITED THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE??????

Okay now that I asked that...I would fix whatever you would like to have and know how to fix so that it doesn't stress you. If they don't like good southern food then there will be plenty of restaurants open.

Also, since they are so picky...and know that your apartments are small, why can't they stay in a hotel or something and be more comfortable?

I know I didn't help..LOL but if they invited themselves, fix it so they won't do that again....LOL

Janet, I swear we are twins.

Janet · 11-09-2006, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Janet, I swear we are twins.

Sometimes Rebecca, when I read your posts....I have to double check and make sure it wasn't one of mine.....LMAO....!!!!

Willow · 11-09-2006, 05:04 PM

ROTFLMAO Janet and Rebecca, you two crack me up!

Janet · 11-10-2006, 05:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Willow

ROTFLMAO Janet and Rebecca, you two crack me up!

Aren't we like two peas in a pod? I just know, even with the age difference, we would have a ball together!!!

RLC12345678 · 11-10-2006, 06:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Janet

Aren't we like two peas in a pod? I just know, even with the age difference, we would have a ball together!!!

OMG! I KNOW!!!!!!!!! You know, my hubby and I might be coming to Indiana over Thanksgiving break to see my hubby's grandmother. We should meet up!!!!!!!!

We'd probably get in too much trouble!

Marilyn · 11-17-2006, 08:39 PM

Mary, my advice to you is to chill out a bit and take some of the advise these fine 4WT ladies are suggesting. You and Phil need to realize that his family is being very selfish and thoughtless if they are coming expecting you do all the work, go to the expense of making them comfortable without contributing at all. I hate to be so blunt, but if they don't offer to help, bring their own bedding or something, I think they are being extremely rude. You are being very gracious by trying to accomodate them, but you should not put yourself in financial or emotional bind to make them happy.

I'd be nice to them, and prepare a nice Thanksgiving meal, but would make it clear that they need to help by bringing air matresses and other items. Meals other than the main Thanksgiving, I'd keep very simple. Buy a big turkey and feed them sandwiches the rest of the time.

Hope you maintain your sanity and relationship with Phil.
Happy Thanksgiving.

Janet · 11-18-2006, 02:19 AM

You been given great advice so far. You should be able to really enjoy the Thanksgiving holiday too and not be stressed or worn out. They can pitch in and should be made to do so, especially since they invited themselves. I'd send them a list of hotel/motels nearby so they can get a hint!

DianaB · 11-18-2006, 09:03 AM

You're going to have to let us know how this turns out.

11-20-2006, 07:22 AM

whew! all weekend i cleaned and organized! i turned phil's apartment into the "living area" by putting both of our couchs in there..dont know how i did it.. but i did. so that way at least like 6 people can sit down at a time lol and in my apartment i put up my old dining table that i had to cut the legs off of b/c it was bar height...so now my apartment is a dining room for 12.
i decided that my room is going to be MY room... well phil is sleeping on the floor. but i had to just tell him that im going to need my space and i cant afford to get sheets and a duvet and everything that would make the bed presentable... so im just gonna shut the door lol .

his little sisters are out of school already and i can tell that they will be camped out over at our apartments so getting everything ready will be just a little bit more complicated... but maybe i can just send them on errands or something lol

i bought all my groceries last night... holy cow... good thing i havent bought any all month to save up for this ... lol we were eating cereal and rice for like 2 weeks. im gonna start cooking today so that way on thurs im not officially freaking out.
im so tired of thanksgiving already that i dont care. the people in my family that were suppose to come bailed out when they found out that so many people from Phil's side were gonna be staying in our apartments... so im gonna be by myself!!! i hope that everything goes ok... i think Phil is really nervous about the apartments looking nice... but unless he's got money somewhere that i dont know about... they are just going to have to stay the way they are! thanks everyone for all your advice... i really hope that i can just get through it with no major upsets!....
oh yeh... i got guts one night and said " everyone has to bring their own bedding and mattresses b/c i cant afford them!" it was great...

11-10-2006, 07:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Janet

I know this will sound so stupid, but I didn't see it anywhere in the posts...

WHO IN THE H*LL INVITED THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE??????

Okay now that I asked that...I would fix whatever you would like to have and know how to fix so that it doesn't stress you. If they don't like good southern food then there will be plenty of restaurants open.

Also, since they are so picky...and know that your apartments are small, why can't they stay in a hotel or something and be more comfortable?

I know I didn't help..LOL but if they invited themselves, fix it so they won't do that again....LOL

they invited themselves! they just called one day and said hey we are coming down there for thanksgiving so get ready lol.... they've never been to the apartments and i keep telling them how small they are in hopes that they will get the picture and its just not working out lol.. i did get brave last night and tell phil's two sisters who are at college nearby that they will be staying at their dorm rooms and not my apartment... they drive me nuts so at least i can say..."oh let me go ahead and get you back to your dorm room!" lol ... i do love the girls.. they are just a little spoiled... one comes over to the apartment and eats all our food and takes some to go.. and the other drops off her laundry for me to do "unintentially"..thank the heavens phil told her off the other day for that. or id still be in laundry hell!!

DianaB · 11-10-2006, 08:38 AM

Phil needs to quit playing middle man and passing the buck to you. It's his family!!! He needs to tell them that you are busy with school and such and that they are NOT taking a vacation and making you work for them!!! He needs to inform them that they need to prepare some of the food and bring it with them. And that they need to bring bedding. It is not up to you to provide bedding and air mattresses for everyone. If they don't bring it then they'll have to go out and buy some. Don't buy it for them!! You are students and I'm sure that your money is tight. If they have to buy an air mattress maybe they can use it somewhere else. That is NOT your problem!!

If all else fails just inform them that you've decided to go to your own family's Thanksgiving meal and that they're welcome to come and fix their own food and such. You don't have to put up with such nonsense!!! You are not their slave to be bossed around so don't put up with it.

RLC12345678 · 11-10-2006, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by DianaB

Phil needs to quit playing middle man and passing the buck to you. It's his family!!! He needs to tell them that you are busy with school and such and that they are NOT taking a vacation and making you work for them!!! He needs to inform them that they need to prepare some of the food and bring it with them. And that they need to bring bedding. It is not up to you to provide bedding and air mattresses for everyone. If they don't bring it then they'll have to go out and buy some. Don't buy it for them!! You are students and I'm sure that your money is tight. If they have to buy an air mattress maybe they can use it somewhere else. That is NOT your problem!!

If all else fails just inform them that you've decided to go to your own family's Thanksgiving meal and that they're welcome to come and fix their own food and such. You don't have to put up with such nonsense!!! You are not their slave to be bossed around so don't put up with it.

I completely agree! You are being WAAAAAAAAY too nice and you are being taken advantage of. I would just tell them that you are going home for Thanksgiving. Leave them with Phil to handle.

11-10-2006, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by DianaB

Phil needs to quit playing middle man and passing the buck to you. It's his family!!! He needs to tell them that you are busy with school and such and that they are NOT taking a vacation and making you work for them!!! He needs to inform them that they need to prepare some of the food and bring it with them. And that they need to bring bedding. It is not up to you to provide bedding and air mattresses for everyone. If they don't bring it then they'll have to go out and buy some. Don't buy it for them!! You are students and I'm sure that your money is tight. If they have to buy an air mattress maybe they can use it somewhere else. That is NOT your problem!!

If all else fails just inform them that you've decided to go to your own family's Thanksgiving meal and that they're welcome to come and fix their own food and such. You don't have to put up with such nonsense!!! You are not their slave to be bossed around so don't put up with it.

i wish i could just say hey... umm im not gonna be here... but some of them i havent met yet and they are alllllll excited to meet me! woooo.. lol i told phil that they will have to bring their own beds/bedding and he is going to talk to his family about pitching in $money wise for all the food and things. phil and I have no money as is, with just opening our office so spending money on things that we dont need is not an option! we just DONT have it period. ive just come to the point where oh well if they like my food and oh well if they have a good time... they came to my house... maybe next year they will have it at theirs and I will get a vacation

11-09-2006, 04:12 PM	#2
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	I know this will sound so stupid, but I didn't see it anywhere in the posts... WHO IN THE H*LL INVITED THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE?????? Okay now that I asked that...I would fix whatever you would like to have and know how to fix so that it doesn't stress you. If they don't like good southern food then there will be plenty of restaurants open. Also, since they are so picky...and know that your apartments are small, why can't they stay in a hotel or something and be more comfortable? I know I didn't help..LOL but if they invited themselves, fix it so they won't do that again....LOL __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

11-17-2006, 08:39 PM	#8
Marilyn Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: South Texas Posts: 4,907	Mary, my advice to you is to chill out a bit and take some of the advise these fine 4WT ladies are suggesting. You and Phil need to realize that his family is being very selfish and thoughtless if they are coming expecting you do all the work, go to the expense of making them comfortable without contributing at all. I hate to be so blunt, but if they don't offer to help, bring their own bedding or something, I think they are being extremely rude. You are being very gracious by trying to accomodate them, but you should not put yourself in financial or emotional bind to make them happy. I'd be nice to them, and prepare a nice Thanksgiving meal, but would make it clear that they need to help by bringing air matresses and other items. Meals other than the main Thanksgiving, I'd keep very simple. Buy a big turkey and feed them sandwiches the rest of the time. Hope you maintain your sanity and relationship with Phil. Happy Thanksgiving. __________________ Marilyn If anyone would like a free Bible Study CD or book entitled "Searching for Truth", PM me with your mailing address and I'll send you one. "And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free." John 8:32

11-18-2006, 02:19 AM	#9
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	You been given great advice so far. You should be able to really enjoy the Thanksgiving holiday too and not be stressed or worn out. They can pitch in and should be made to do so, especially since they invited themselves. I'd send them a list of hotel/motels nearby so they can get a hint! __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

11-18-2006, 09:03 AM	#10
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	You're going to have to let us know how this turns out. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

11-10-2006, 08:38 AM	#13
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	Phil needs to quit playing middle man and passing the buck to you. It's his family!!! He needs to tell them that you are busy with school and such and that they are NOT taking a vacation and making you work for them!!! He needs to inform them that they need to prepare some of the food and bring it with them. And that they need to bring bedding. It is not up to you to provide bedding and air mattresses for everyone. If they don't bring it then they'll have to go out and buy some. Don't buy it for them!! You are students and I'm sure that your money is tight. If they have to buy an air mattress maybe they can use it somewhere else. That is NOT your problem!! If all else fails just inform them that you've decided to go to your own family's Thanksgiving meal and that they're welcome to come and fix their own food and such. You don't have to put up with such nonsense!!! You are not their slave to be bossed around so don't put up with it. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

11-09-2006, 05:04 PM	#5
Willow Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 258	ROTFLMAO Janet and Rebecca, you two crack me up!

11-20-2006, 07:22 AM	#11
tumblnstar Guest Posts: n/a	whew! all weekend i cleaned and organized! i turned phil's apartment into the "living area" by putting both of our couchs in there..dont know how i did it.. but i did. so that way at least like 6 people can sit down at a time lol and in my apartment i put up my old dining table that i had to cut the legs off of b/c it was bar height...so now my apartment is a dining room for 12. i decided that my room is going to be MY room... well phil is sleeping on the floor. but i had to just tell him that im going to need my space and i cant afford to get sheets and a duvet and everything that would make the bed presentable... so im just gonna shut the door lol . his little sisters are out of school already and i can tell that they will be camped out over at our apartments so getting everything ready will be just a little bit more complicated... but maybe i can just send them on errands or something lol i bought all my groceries last night... holy cow... good thing i havent bought any all month to save up for this ... lol we were eating cereal and rice for like 2 weeks. im gonna start cooking today so that way on thurs im not officially freaking out. im so tired of thanksgiving already that i dont care. the people in my family that were suppose to come bailed out when they found out that so many people from Phil's side were gonna be staying in our apartments... so im gonna be by myself!!! i hope that everything goes ok... i think Phil is really nervous about the apartments looking nice... but unless he's got money somewhere that i dont know about... they are just going to have to stay the way they are! thanks everyone for all your advice... i really hope that i can just get through it with no major upsets!.... oh yeh... i got guts one night and said " everyone has to bring their own bedding and mattresses b/c i cant afford them!" it was great...

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