help... i have a nightmare coming in 2 weeks

[Janet]

Originally Posted by DianaB

Phil needs to quit playing middle man and passing the buck to you. It's his family!!! He needs to tell them that you are busy with school and such and that they are NOT taking a vacation and making you work for them!!! He needs to inform them that they need to prepare some of the food and bring it with them. And that they need to bring bedding. It is not up to you to provide bedding and air mattresses for everyone. If they don't bring it then they'll have to go out and buy some. Don't buy it for them!! You are students and I'm sure that your money is tight. If they have to buy an air mattress maybe they can use it somewhere else. That is NOT your problem!!

If all else fails just inform them that you've decided to go to your own family's Thanksgiving meal and that they're welcome to come and fix their own food and such. You don't have to put up with such nonsense!!! You are not their slave to be bossed around so don't put up with it.

Excellent advice....

Also, why put the whole burden on you. Why not everyone go to a great Thanksgiving meal at a nice restaurant? That way you're not too tired to enjoy the holiday too. Then the only inconvience would be everyone stay over.

Even better, volunteer them (and yourselves) to work in a shelter feeding the homeless for the holiday?