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06-10-2011, 07:53 AM
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I'm glad that you got this off of your shoulders.......but like Gayle said he may take it that he doesn't have to worry about anything since you threw him out. I still think that you need to sit down with a calendar and have everyone take a weekend for the next couple of months and then they have to figure out how she'll be taken care of and for how long. You need to have a family meeting with your brothers and get this straightened out.
Does Brad realize that when you're Mom goes into the nursing home that all of her assets will be spent to take care of her.......and they have to be gone before the state will take over on her care? It's definitely worth taking care of them at home for as long as you can because of the finances. You might want to be checking with a lawyer to see what you can do ahead of time to save any assets your Mom might have. She may need to sign the house over to you kids or something like that. |
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06-10-2011, 10:18 AM
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I think that needs to be done 5 years prior to being admitted to any facility, at least in NYS.
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06-10-2011, 10:28 AM
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Yes, It's 5 years prior in Texas too, so that's probably standard
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06-10-2011, 02:05 PM
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One of the therapists gave me some names of places that will come and sit with Mom if I want to run an errand or just have time to myself. So when I need it, I will definitely use it. I also have a fellow bus driver who I've become good friends with. She told me today that she really doesn't have anything to do in the summer and would be glad to come sit and talk with Mom while I do what I need to do. It was so sweet of her.
Brad did send me a text back and say that he would see Mom....it just wouldn't be here. So...guess I'll have to get out the hoops for him to jump through....LOL. Yes....I can be a turd if need be. He'll have to speak with her Drs. if he wants any information because when I say I'm done....I'm completely done.
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06-10-2011, 04:59 PM
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So, is he planning to meet her at the local bar? Will he pick her up and take her out?
Puh!!!
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06-10-2011, 06:38 PM
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He's such an a$$ Judy it's really hard telling. I do know that if any of us see his number on caller ID we will not answer it. If Mom has a phone by her she can answer it or we'll just hand the phone to her.
He's always been the spoiled baby of the family and thinks everyone should do the way he does. I'm so glad I won't have to deal with him anymore. It's like a big weight lifted from my shoulders.
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06-11-2011, 07:05 AM
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I agree that you don't need his nonsense right now. Just do some soul seatrching so that you are not left with any regrets about yourself, Mom or your brother.
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