Mother-in-laws??

You MIL sounds like she likes to play the victim. Sorry you have to deal with that. I feel bad for your kiddos, that sucks she hasn't even taken the time to visit them, no matter what her and your relationship is. That is just plain rude!


My FIL and Step MIL, BIL and 2 SIL's are great! They have the occasionally family drama, but nothing worth complaining about...

Notice I didn't mention my MIL... My DH doesn't talk to her. She has made a lot of mistakes, and choices that make it so my DH is a much happier person with out her in his life. He felt he had to stop contact with her to keep his self esteem, health, happiness, and overall life better. She hasn't tried to contact him since he made that decision, so I think either she really just doesn't care, or she just wants the pity from others that "her son doesn't talk to her".

I have SO many friends that tell me it is actually a blessing to not have a MIL butting into my marriage.

[Amber_lv]

Originally Posted by Meg

You MIL sounds like she likes to play the victim. Sorry you have to deal with that. I feel bad for your kiddos, that sucks she hasn't even taken the time to visit them, no matter what her and your relationship is. That is just plain rude!


My FIL and Step MIL, BIL and 2 SIL's are great! They have the occasionally family drama, but nothing worth complaining about...

Notice I didn't mention my MIL... My DH doesn't talk to her. She has made a lot of mistakes, and choices that make it so my DH is a much happier person with out her in his life. He felt he had to stop contact with her to keep his self esteem, health, happiness, and overall life better. She hasn't tried to contact him since he made that decision, so I think either she really just doesn't care, or she just wants the pity from others that "her son doesn't talk to her".

I have SO many friends that tell me it is actually a blessing to not have a MIL butting into my marriage.

It is a blessing i wish i could have a relationship with my mil but it's just not worth the stress on me and my children i mean you can only be fake for so long ya know.

[Kimberley]

What a psycho witch!!! Girl, your MIL and my best friend's MIL must be sisters! I swear that Pam looks like the Fairy Godmother in Shrek 2. So hateful and ugly! Hold your head up high. Don't let her get to you. Quit trying to be friends with her. She doesn't want to be friends. You took her son away from her and she'll never forgive you for that. It's her loss...not yours!

[Gina]

Originally Posted by Kimberley

What a psycho witch!!! Girl, your MIL and my best friend's MIL must be sisters! I swear that Pam looks like the Fairy Godmother in Shrek 2. So hateful and ugly! Hold your head up high. Don't let her get to you. Quit trying to be friends with her. She doesn't want to be friends. You took her son away from her and she'll never forgive you for that. It's her loss...not yours!

You said it correctly .. You took her son away and she'll never forgive you for that.. But she has to be reminded that she did the same to, these MIL forget they took someone's son away from their moms to. Get over it...Life is to short to be so miserable. Amber remember its her loss you have children and she is not involved in their lives . Your children will grow up soon enough and she short changed herself. You did all you can, so don't give it a second thought.She doesn't sound like a decent woman for she wouldn't treat you and your children this way if she was. Whatever you do don't hold it against your husband he has no control over her and probably is frustrated with her behavior to. Good luck to you.
As far as my relationship with my MIL , she passed away over a year ago, she was a doll , and treated me like her own daughter. I was blessed.

[RLC12345678]

Awe! Honey! That really sux. I agree with Kimberley. No matter WHAT you do, you will NEVER please her. She obviously has some personal issues that she needs to deal with before she will ever be able to have a healthy relationship with ANYONE, including YOU! You and your hubby just need to get on the same page and make sure that your hubby is on YOUR side. He should be putting YOU and YOUR relationship WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY before his mother. Good luck to you, honey. You need to take care of yourself first and foremost, and your hubby and your children. MIL and in-laws in general come AFTER all of that.

[Amber_lv]

Thanks everyone i have just stayed away from her i have nothing to do with his family. His dad has done some horrific things as well but he is trying to make a mends and i am letting him my husband understands but it's a very touchy subject for us i just feel bad because we reaally don't have anything to do with his family but i refuse to put my kids through that ya know.

[Marilyn]

You've gotten some good advice here. Kimberley, Gina and Rebecca are right on track. You need to take care of your family as you are doing, and let her stew in her own mess. Sometimes we have to wish them well and leave them be. Your children will not miss out on anything from the way it sounds, but your MIL will miss out on them.

We have family that we have chosen not to have contact with. It's sad, but we are much happier because of it. We sometimes feel that we have reset the family. Just started over. Our dear friends are our family.

My MIL was actually a nice lady. Frustrating at times, but overall we had a very good relationship. She is gone now, but I do miss her.