Is It Normal?

DianaB · 11-25-2006, 07:00 AM

I agree with Tink that this is a personal decision. You might want to talk to people who have children close together and get some idea if this is for you. I do know that it takes a lot of patience to have 2 little ones.

My first 2 children are 2 1/2 yrs. apart. That seemed plenty close enough to me. Then the next one I had was 5 years younger, and the fourth child is 10 years younger. I have exactly 17 1/2 years from oldest to youngest (He was born Nov. 5 and she was born May 5). I loved having the last 2 to myself and really babied them a lot more. When they were small they weren't as close with each other, but now that they're almost grown up they are close (my youngest is 14). I didn't have the patience to have them really close in age.

Miss_Sara · 11-28-2006, 08:20 PM

I want to do that as well when I have kids

but do you stay at home?
I think this would be really difficult with a full time job, unless you are able to get like 6 months off ha ha ha
I think if this sounds good to you, DO IT!
ha ha, but of course it will be REALLY hard in the beginning, and when they leave for college, it might be a bit overwhelming
but I think that the close they are in age the closer they are, my cousins are just a little more than a year apart and they're very close and get along like best friends, they even have the same group of friends!
my siblings are WAY WAY WAY older then me, and I don't ever even talk to them, even though my sister is in her mid 30's and I'm 18 we fight like crazy.

it's just up to you, and how you raise them, on how close they'll be!!!

good luck!

Willow · 12-03-2006, 12:35 PM

My first two are 23 months apart. The second and third are two and a half years apart, and the third and fourth are 19 months apart. Of all my kids, my youngest two, who are closest in age, are bonded closest to eachother.

Janet · 12-03-2006, 03:51 PM

I think it's perfectly normal if you love kids. I wanted a bunch before I found out I couldn't. The perfect number for me would have been seven. As I got older, I dropped it down to 5 and then 3. I have my precious ONE and he's the best!!!

Marilyn · 12-03-2006, 06:25 PM

We have two girls, 18 months apart. It was hard at first, and I didn't get to baby the first one as long as I would have liked, but it's nice having them so close in age. Before our youngest went away to college and found a boyfriend, our girls each considered her sister to be her best friend. How much better can it be than that?

The toughest part is that the time flies by, and they are both out of school and in college, and their becoming independent. It would be nice to still have a child in school. I originally wanted 4, but it did not turn out that way. I think 4 would have been better. The first two as we had them, and then a third about three years later with another 18 months after that. 2 pair.

But, God knew what we could handle, and actually, I wouldn't change a thing. If only I could get them to listen to me more and try harder in college!!!!! 'Lissa are you reading this???

Emmsmom · 12-12-2006, 10:03 AM

A lot of women want children close in age. It really is a very personal choice. I wanted no part of having anymore kids for quite a while. The thought of 2 in diapers was not my idea of fun!

I had a really hard childhood and had to grow up fast. For a long time I didn't wnt any kids. Then one day it just hit me. Took me over a year to get preg. When she came I was very happy with the one I had. I never realyl had the "urge" to ahve another one until just a year or so ago. Now it is really too late for me.

I agree with Tink as well. If this is what you and your hubby want then go for it.

Amber_lv · 12-12-2006, 06:58 PM

after i had my second baby who is now 19 months i wanted another one i was like i can do this but we decided not to have any more and now that he is a little older i am so glad i decided not to i don't think i could handle 2 that close together especially after he started walking i could not imagine trying to take care of a new born while chasing down a 1 yr old lol i wish i could i would love another baby but i just ain't equipped to handle it lol. my oldest is 6 so they are 5 yrs apart a lot farther then i wanted. But this is a very personal choice it's whatever is right for you. good luck

11-25-2006, 07:00 AM	#1
DianaB Moderator Donating 4WT 13K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Kansas Posts: 16,069	I agree with Tink that this is a personal decision. You might want to talk to people who have children close together and get some idea if this is for you. I do know that it takes a lot of patience to have 2 little ones. My first 2 children are 2 1/2 yrs. apart. That seemed plenty close enough to me. Then the next one I had was 5 years younger, and the fourth child is 10 years younger. I have exactly 17 1/2 years from oldest to youngest (He was born Nov. 5 and she was born May 5). I loved having the last 2 to myself and really babied them a lot more. When they were small they weren't as close with each other, but now that they're almost grown up they are close (my youngest is 14). I didn't have the patience to have them really close in age. __________________ ´¨) ¸.•´¸.•´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Diana Baker ✞ You and I are friends....... Always remember that if you fall I will pick you up...... After I stop laughing!!!

11-28-2006, 08:20 PM	#2
Miss_Sara Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 120	I want to do that as well when I have kids but do you stay at home? I think this would be really difficult with a full time job, unless you are able to get like 6 months off ha ha ha I think if this sounds good to you, DO IT! ha ha, but of course it will be REALLY hard in the beginning, and when they leave for college, it might be a bit overwhelming but I think that the close they are in age the closer they are, my cousins are just a little more than a year apart and they're very close and get along like best friends, they even have the same group of friends! my siblings are WAY WAY WAY older then me, and I don't ever even talk to them, even though my sister is in her mid 30's and I'm 18 we fight like crazy. it's just up to you, and how you raise them, on how close they'll be!!! good luck! __________________ God has filled my arms

12-03-2006, 03:51 PM	#4
Janet Moderator Donating 4WT 18K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 21,625	I think it's perfectly normal if you love kids. I wanted a bunch before I found out I couldn't. The perfect number for me would have been seven. As I got older, I dropped it down to 5 and then 3. I have my precious ONE and he's the best!!! __________________ To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. ECCLESIASTES 3:1

12-03-2006, 06:25 PM	#5
Marilyn Donating 4WT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: South Texas Posts: 4,907	We have two girls, 18 months apart. It was hard at first, and I didn't get to baby the first one as long as I would have liked, but it's nice having them so close in age. Before our youngest went away to college and found a boyfriend, our girls each considered her sister to be her best friend. How much better can it be than that? The toughest part is that the time flies by, and they are both out of school and in college, and their becoming independent. It would be nice to still have a child in school. I originally wanted 4, but it did not turn out that way. I think 4 would have been better. The first two as we had them, and then a third about three years later with another 18 months after that. 2 pair. But, God knew what we could handle, and actually, I wouldn't change a thing. If only I could get them to listen to me more and try harder in college!!!!! 'Lissa are you reading this??? __________________ Marilyn If anyone would like a free Bible Study CD or book entitled "Searching for Truth", PM me with your mailing address and I'll send you one. "And you shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free." John 8:32

12-12-2006, 10:03 AM	#6
Emmsmom Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 612	A lot of women want children close in age. It really is a very personal choice. I wanted no part of having anymore kids for quite a while. The thought of 2 in diapers was not my idea of fun! I had a really hard childhood and had to grow up fast. For a long time I didn't wnt any kids. Then one day it just hit me. Took me over a year to get preg. When she came I was very happy with the one I had. I never realyl had the "urge" to ahve another one until just a year or so ago. Now it is really too late for me. I agree with Tink as well. If this is what you and your hubby want then go for it. __________________ MICHELLE

12-03-2006, 12:35 PM	#3
Willow Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 258	My first two are 23 months apart. The second and third are two and a half years apart, and the third and fourth are 19 months apart. Of all my kids, my youngest two, who are closest in age, are bonded closest to eachother.

12-12-2006, 06:58 PM	#7
Amber_lv Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Salt Lake Posts: 983	after i had my second baby who is now 19 months i wanted another one i was like i can do this but we decided not to have any more and now that he is a little older i am so glad i decided not to i don't think i could handle 2 that close together especially after he started walking i could not imagine trying to take care of a new born while chasing down a 1 yr old lol i wish i could i would love another baby but i just ain't equipped to handle it lol. my oldest is 6 so they are 5 yrs apart a lot farther then i wanted. But this is a very personal choice it's whatever is right for you. good luck __________________ Peeka-Boo-Daisy-Designs for all your doggy clothing needs Peeka's Myspace Daisy's Myspace

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