Can Things Get Worse??

[DianaB]

When he's been in jail before we've gotten him out on work release......which is basically he's out. It costs us $20 a day to get him out but I think that this time everyone's fustrated enough that he'll just be sitting in jail the whole time.

I really think that he would like to change but he's not willing to give up anything to begin the change.......like lying. He lied to Dae Lynn all summer about not chewing......but Amy found a spit cup at the church a couple of days ago that was tucked away. He was out on work release to work at the church all summer. Just a simple thing......just tell Dae Lynn the truth......and she asked him a lot of times about it but he denied it. Fool me once.....shame on you......fool me twice......shame on me. That's where I'm at right now. I'm not buying anything that he says!!!!

Dae Lynn took him to a small motel in town last night. Hopefully he'll either be in jail or find a place to stay......but I don't know where. Maybe Dae Lynn will know when she gets home from work. I feel really guilty about him not having a place to go to but on the other hand.......he was provided a place to stay for the next year!!!! UUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!

[judy]

Why does he need a place to stay if he is going to jail?

I can understand your anger and frustration with him. I have felt the same way about Steve many times.

I am praying for the best outcome, Diana.

[Blueyes]

I'm so sorry Diana! I'm glad you are sticking to your guns about him staying at your house. Some people have to learn the hard way that there are consequences for their actions.

[DianaB]

Things are so stressful here that I can't even write about how bad it is. Before I even got out of bed this morning I could hear Dae Lynn yelling at Glen. I know that all of this is so hard for her and I can sympathize with her. It is hard to know that your husband has no where to stay and even isn't welcome where you are at. She understands what we're saying but still it's hard.

Dae Lynn brought Damon out here again last night to see the kids which makes us feel guilty that he has no where to stay. Glen wasn't happy that he was here again but we had kids church and weren't here to be around him much and Dae Lynn was asleep when we got home. I know that she's paying for his motel and really doesn't have the money to do that and eventually it will come out of our pocket.

Besides the problems with Damon my dil, Tammy, is stirring up trouble. She thinks that Damon doesn't deserve the attention that Glen and I give him and it's not fair to her and Jason, our sil. It keeps coming back to Glen and I that we shouldn't have let Dae Lynn even marry Damon but Dae Lynn was over 18 when she did that.......we couldn't have stopped it but they don't seem to understand that. It's already done and we have to deal with things from here but they want to dwell in the "you should haves". I hate to say this but my dil causes some real problems and a lot of it stems from her not always telling the truth and gossiping. Damon's not the only one that we're fustrated with. I just feel like going outside and giving a blood curdling scream because I'm so fustrated with everything but we have some older neighbors and I'm afraid that they would call the sheriff to come out and see what was going on!!!! LOL

I AM heading to my Aunt Marva's this weekend. I need a break from the kids, the drama, from Damon, and from Tammy. I'll be leaving on Friday mornng and heading out. Amy has already said that she would watch Dean on Friday.

[judy]

It sounds like you have your hands full, Diana!

I love that you are taking off and going to your Aunt's!!! The best way not to play other people's games, is just not to be around!!!

I feel bad for Dae Lyn too. I hope she faces the truth very soon. If not, you may have to set very strong limits. With Tammy too! Pretend to have a splitting headache, and go lie down next time she starts up. Then tell her your blood pressure went too high, and that the doctor said you cannot discuss it.

[gja1000]

Oh Judy, you have the best advice.

[DianaB]

Originally Posted by judy

............ Pretend to have a splitting headache, and go lie down next time she starts up. Then tell her your blood pressure went too high, and that the doctor said you cannot discuss it.

I'll have to try that!!!! Thanks, Judy!!!

The reason that Damon needs a place to stay is because the paperwork hasn't caught up with him yet. The court hasn't received the paperwork about Damon but when they do they'll put out a warrant for his arrest and he'll be taken back to jail. They can't do anything with him until then. He could be out a few days or over a month. We don't know. It doesn't make sense to me.

[Janet]

Since he knows he'll be served a warrant, why doesn't he just go turn himself in? That way he'll have a place to stay. It would be a good way for Damon to prove he has the right intentions. I really think that Damon needs long term help and it's not going to be easy as we've all seen. Wish there were some easy answers.