Mother-in-laws??

[Gina]

Originally Posted by Kimberley

What a psycho witch!!! Girl, your MIL and my best friend's MIL must be sisters! I swear that Pam looks like the Fairy Godmother in Shrek 2. So hateful and ugly! Hold your head up high. Don't let her get to you. Quit trying to be friends with her. She doesn't want to be friends. You took her son away from her and she'll never forgive you for that. It's her loss...not yours!

You said it correctly .. You took her son away and she'll never forgive you for that.. But she has to be reminded that she did the same to, these MIL forget they took someone's son away from their moms to. Get over it...Life is to short to be so miserable. Amber remember its her loss you have children and she is not involved in their lives . Your children will grow up soon enough and she short changed herself. You did all you can, so don't give it a second thought.She doesn't sound like a decent woman for she wouldn't treat you and your children this way if she was. Whatever you do don't hold it against your husband he has no control over her and probably is frustrated with her behavior to. Good luck to you.
As far as my relationship with my MIL , she passed away over a year ago, she was a doll , and treated me like her own daughter. I was blessed.

[RLC12345678]

Awe! Honey! That really sux. I agree with Kimberley. No matter WHAT you do, you will NEVER please her. She obviously has some personal issues that she needs to deal with before she will ever be able to have a healthy relationship with ANYONE, including YOU! You and your hubby just need to get on the same page and make sure that your hubby is on YOUR side. He should be putting YOU and YOUR relationship WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY before his mother. Good luck to you, honey. You need to take care of yourself first and foremost, and your hubby and your children. MIL and in-laws in general come AFTER all of that.

[Amber_lv]

Thanks everyone i have just stayed away from her i have nothing to do with his family. His dad has done some horrific things as well but he is trying to make a mends and i am letting him my husband understands but it's a very touchy subject for us i just feel bad because we reaally don't have anything to do with his family but i refuse to put my kids through that ya know.

[Marilyn]

You've gotten some good advice here. Kimberley, Gina and Rebecca are right on track. You need to take care of your family as you are doing, and let her stew in her own mess. Sometimes we have to wish them well and leave them be. Your children will not miss out on anything from the way it sounds, but your MIL will miss out on them.

We have family that we have chosen not to have contact with. It's sad, but we are much happier because of it. We sometimes feel that we have reset the family. Just started over. Our dear friends are our family.

My MIL was actually a nice lady. Frustrating at times, but overall we had a very good relationship. She is gone now, but I do miss her.

[Mandy]

I don't have a MIL, but what i read is that, she's one sad old lady.
All you have to do is look after your own family and let her be, don't worry about her, and don't let her upset you in any way.
She is missing out, not you.

[Janet]

I've read and reread the posts on this subject, including mine. I'm just so sorry you have to go through this. I guess after losing my FIL and with step-MIL in nursing home, and my mother of 83 years in not the best of health, I'm realizing life is so short.

Have you tried writing her an honest, non-attacking letter? I feel sometimes a letter instead of a confrontation can work really well. I would put everything in it that you posted, including reminding her that she took her hubby away from his mother too. Maybe someday she can enter her grandchildrens life again, there is nothing in the world like grandparents (if they are good grandparents). You don't ever have to be best friends, but if you let her know just how much you love her son, maybe her heart will soften.

I wish you and your family the very best, no matter how you chose to handle it.

[khardy57]

My MIL didn't like me when my late husband and I got married. Since he's died, I've gone thru hell with my inlaws and my husband's brother. I'll be glad when everything is all settled and I can cut all ties with them.