Time for the Nitty Gritty...

Marilyn · 09-08-2006, 07:43 PM

Pink Cupcakes - Sweetie, if at all possible, you need to talk to a counselor. Perhaps you can get your hubby to go with you. If you are a Christian, a Christian counselor would be most appropriate. Your body is not your own, it is his and his is yours. It's just not right for either of you to suffer so. If he loves you like he should, he cannot be happy with the current situation. Perhaps if you can work through this, he won't need so much medication. Also, if you can work through this together, you marriage can be much stronger.

I wouldn't have children until your marriage improves. Children will just put more strain on your relationship. I had my first when I was 31 due to infertility issues. This was probably a good thing. We were much more mature, and more able to handle the challenges and finanical requirements of parenthood.

Wishing you the very, very best!!
Marilyn

Amber_lv · 09-08-2006, 08:17 PM

Ok first off since we are being honest i guess I'll add a little more to my story... Well when me and my hubby first met i was a total and complete nympho(i'm not kidding) I wanted sex all the time we would get finished and he would roll over and i would want it again at least 3 times a night every night(I'm really not kidding) and this went on for about 3 years well my hubby was almost killed in a ATV accident and he was on oxicotton and lortabs for ever well he got addicted to them and the doctor just kept prescribing them to him (he was on them for over a year

) He didn't want anything to do with me during this time he had no sex drive at all (because of the pills) and i felt so inadequate it gave me very low self esteem and it was horrible! Well this helped kill my sex drive and after he got off the pills he started to want sex more well we decided to have another baby so we had sex like rabbits and i got pregnant well...... I do not do well in pregnancy my baby took everything from me and my hormones were shot i hated my husband while i was pregnant and we almost got a divorce because of it he slept on the couch for 9 months i wouldn't even kiss him ( i feel really bad but it wasn't my fault i couldn't help it) Well i had the baby after bed rest and preterm labor and a hard labor he was 3 1/2 weeks early i went into a severe post pardom depression which i still haven't fully recovered from but my point is i have no sex drive at all and he is now like a freaking animal all he thinks about is sex(and i mean 24-7) I can't even hug him without him trying to throw me down and do me right there!! It is a lot easier now that he is on the road but i still have times i don't want sex and we fight severely about it if i say no. I know he loves me and he has needs but it's hard to force yourself when you don't want it. I really do miss my sex life and wish i could be the way i used to be but right now i don't think it will happen and I'm ok with it but my hubby hates it! To pink i hope maybe you can talk to him and seek counseling together and maybe try the testosterone pills for him i am in counseling now trying to work on this myself so good luck and don't lose hope we are here for you.

09-09-2006, 01:47 AM

Cymbalta is a new anti-depressant/anti-anxiety drug. It is excellent and here is the best thing...it does not decrease the sex drive. Paxil (I was on it for years) will eliminate the desire for sex completely and will make it very hard to orgasm. Physicians who have not had personal experience with anti-depressants do not explain to patients how severe the change in sex will be on Paxil, Lexapro, Prozak etc. Cymbalta has none of those side effects. My husband is a psychologist so when he first learned about Cymbalta he told me. My physcian immediately switched me from Paxil to Cymbalta. Thank goodness!
Another thing. My husband is 60 and had decreased sex drive. We just got married 3 years ago. He figured that it was just something that he would have to accept as part of aging.Since I am a nurse, I suggested that he have his testosterone level checked. Bingo! It was low. He now uses testosterone cream once a day. The difference has been remarkable. Even he cannot believe how much different he feels and not just sexually. He also has more energy and interest in his hobbies again. Hope this helps some sex lives!

09-09-2006, 08:07 AM

Like it or not Sex is the key for men anyways and Guess who holds that key???? WE DO So ladies listen up ..if your relationship suffers from good or bad Sex ..know you have the /////key ~~~~~Learn to work it !

Kimberley · 09-09-2006, 09:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Miniflash

Like it or not Sex is the key for men anyways and Guess who holds that key???? WE DO So ladies listen up ..if your relationship suffers from good or bad Sex ..know you have the /////key ~~~~~Learn to work it !

HAHA! That's funny!!!!

khardy57 · 09-10-2006, 06:14 PM