What's Going On........

[Janet]

Hope you all had a great weekend Diana and that this first week out of school goes well. Probably be a good idea to have some kind of plan everyday for Karlie. You know, a scheduled day like in school. Breakfast...make bed, clean room, play, snack, play, pick up toys,lunch, help with lunch clean up, rest by reading or something sitting, play, help get things ready for supper and the evening to do whatever. Except for bath and bedtime. She just seems like she needs some kind of structure. I know you've probably already thought of this, but just wanted to try and help. I want you to have a good summer.

[judy]

I think Dae Lynn needs to go through the process of separating from Damon, and it takes as long as it takes. She might even go back with him for a while, and then leave again. I hate to say it, but I do not think he will turn things around. It takes an enormous effort, and he is doing the minimum by going to this group. You really can't say that he will always be a part of her life because of the children either. My first husband was not part of my life, and in her teens, not really part of Jessie's life either.

One day at a time!

You might want her to do more to help with the kids, Diana. Does she have time to spend with them? She can set them up for the next day as far as things to do, etc.

[DianaB]

Judy, yes.....Dae Lynn spends a lot of time with the kids when she's home and shen she's home I try to leave all their care to her so I have a break.

This moring Glen made breakfast, which I don't usually have to worry about their breakfast, and Dae Lynn got the kids dressed. The kids have played outside until Dean did a face-plant off of the swings!! He was swinging on his tummy and I think, got top heavy and went over face first. He came in with dirt all in his mouth, nose, and all over his face......and scratches on nose and below his nose......Poor little guy! So now they're watching TV.

Having a structured day for Karlie is a good idea but also will be some work for me. I'll see how things go and if I need to that would be a good idea to incorporate in our day.

I think that at the moment Damon is doing good. He's not an alcholic in the sense of drinking all the time.....it's binge drinking probably a couple of times a year. So he CAN do good when he wants to. He has gone a year and a half without drinking when they were first married so he Can do better when he wants to. I'm torn between what I want her to do.......I'm just glad that it's not my decision!! It really shows how important it is to chose your mate wisely!!! If you were to meet Damon he's very likeable so it's hard to figure out what to do.

Dae Lynn spent all day yesterday with Damon and, I guess, Glen asked her about what she did yesterday and it set him off in a bad mood. Some mornings he's so grouchy that I cant' wait for him to go to work!!!! Today was one of those days!!!

[Janet]

Saw on FB that today is Dae Lynn's birthday. I did write on her page, but please tell her I'm thinking of her and wishing her a wonderful day!

[2tiredmom]

Diana,
I just got back on here today. You and your family are in my prayers. God only gives
you what he knows you can handle. You are a strong person. God Bless you.

[DianaB]

Thanks so much, Linda.

Well......Dae Lynn's going to move back with Damon one of these days. We're not sure when. Glen's not happy and is being an absolute bear about it but then he's a bear most of the time lately.

There is a house nearby that's for sale and they went and looked at it the other day. Dae Lynn said that she really thought it was too small and that she really wasn't interested but she came home really excited about it. I'm going to go and look at it with her this afternoon so I'm really curious about it. The yard is just beautiful!! There are flowers planted all around the edges of the yard and the river runs along one side. There's a bridge that crosses the river in front of the house so it's built really high above the river. When we had the really bad flood a few years ago....that house didn't get wet. So the kids are talking about buying it. Damon's Dad received insurance money when his Mom died and the kids all get a share of it......we hope. That's what they're planning on using for the down payment and hopefully, Damon's Dad will keep his word that he'll give them the money......if he doesn't.......well, the kids won't be able to get it.

The house is right down the road from Glen's brother, Mark, that Damon works for. It will be really handy for Damon to get to work since he can't drive. We found out that he'll get his license back in a year or two. He hasn't had one since Dae Lynn and he have been married.

Dae Lynn and Damon have been getting along but realize that living separately makes it harder on their marriage. Damon has been doing very good......no drinking, but he has gone for long periods before.......he's a binge drinker. We have a program that started in town with one of the churches that is called "Project Celebration". It doesn't have many people because it's just started but is for any kind of problem a person has in their life......not just drugs and alcohol. Dae Lynn went with Damon on Monday night and was really impressed with the program. For her it's getting help with dealing with Damon and his problems. Hopefully it will help them together. Damon's a nice guy. I DO like him but it hurts me to see my daughter hurt. I think that he's upset with me......and Glen for tossing him out but hopefully it was a lesson on how serious we are about lying and some of his problems. I also hope that through all of this he realizes how close he's come to losing his family and that will help him to do better.

Dae Lynn found out that her schooling is going to cost a LOT more than she thought it was going to. She was going to a satellite school of a private university. She's decided to wait another year and then drive to another college. It will cost more to drive but the tuition will be a lot cheaper. She's pretty upset by it all but it will work out for the best. God has a way of doing that!!

[Janet]

Dae Lynn has to do what she thinks is best for her and her children. Only she will know when it's time to totally cut it off with him. Maybe this will be the time that works and it would have been a shame if she hadn't tried one more time...especially since she loves him.

Maybe she just thought the house looked too small until she saw the inside. I sure hope Damon's dad follows through on his promise to share the money. That would be so nice to use on the house.

I feel bad for her that the schooling isn't working out for her at this time. But as we all know, there must be a reason....a better plan.