His Girlfriend.......

[JJJ]

Janet, why don't you find a women shelter for this girl. That way your boy knows that your not being cold and want whats best for her. I had to hide from my ex and this wonderful lady help me because I couldn't go to my family since my ex knew there address. So I stayed at a women's shelter for a few weeks. They provide food, shelter and have security and help women go to school and find work. If she doesn't want to go then you guys know she is just bluffing. I was not happy to go there but I would have done everything to get away from my ex.

Your son's support should mean alot to her but like you said, it's not something she should involve him in. Tell him that he needs to give her grown up advise but it is her that needs to pull herself through. They might even have counseling in there that she can go to for her suicidal thoughts.

[JJJ]

Couple of women shelters in Indianapolis. Might be more but I did a quick search.

http://beaconofhopeindy.org/newsite/contact-us/

http://www.coburnplace.org/

Ricky can help by being the driver.

[JJJ]

OOps forgot this one

http://www.volunteermatch.org/search/org174810.jsp

[Janet]

Thank you Jess....that is a really good idea. I will give her the info and see what happens. Only thing is Ricky can't be her driver. Indianapolis is an hour south of us and Ricky works 30 minutes east of us. If her family can't take her then I don't know what she'll do. I really don't want it to be his problem too. She has plenty of family to help her.

[DianaB]

I agree. Her problems are NOT your or your son's problems.......and it sounds like she has a lot! I would firmly stand my ground on this. Obviously the cutting proves that there is some emotional problems as well and this girl needs help. She needs to confide in her Mom or Dad and let them know what's going on with this ex-boyfriend.

I know that Ricky would like to have a girlfriend but this is something that I used to tell Dae Lynn before she married Damon. "There are worse things than being single!" Sadly she found that out the hard way.

Keep praying......and pray that God would remove this girl from Ricky's like and bring a good girl to him. I'll be praying too.

[Janet]

Thank you Diana. I've been praying so hard. Literally on my knees.

[Janet]

3:37 in the morning. My son didn't come home. Sent me a text earlier today that said "if she can't stay all night here, can I stay at her house?" He came home from work and we talked for a bit and I told him
I didn't think it was right, but obviously he doesn't give a crap what his dad and I think. So....she will no longer be allowed in our house. He made his bed now he can lie in it. If he wants her and her drama damned life, he can have her.....I am no longer allowing toxic people in my life. He will always be welcome and loved.....but I don't need, want or desire trash like her.

[Janet]

3:49 pm....still haven't heard from my son. I honestly feel as though my heart is bleeding.