His Girlfriend.......

[Janet]

3:49 pm....still haven't heard from my son. I honestly feel as though my heart is bleeding.

[Blueyes]

Janet, I'm sure we've all felt this way from time to time about our children. Sometimes our sons can absolutely lose their minds over a girl. It's extra hard on you because Ricky lives at home and you know when he's out of pocket and you worry about him. I'm so sorry you have to go thru this. I wish our kids would just take our advice when it comes to a bad choice concerning a girlfriend, but it's too hard for them to see. I wish I had listened closer to my mother about certain things, but when you're young and "in love" your brain stops functioning.

[DianaB]

Betsi, you are so right.

Here's a big hug, Janet!! I'm praying too.

[JJJ]

His not thinking with his brain right now like many young people. If it was my kid I would pack his things and tell him his old enough to make his decisions so be it. Your not disowning him your just letting him be a man. Sooner or later this girl will make a mistake and he will see what you meant.

[Janet]

Thought I'd catch you all up a bit. He came home around 6 PM or so on Sunday after my husband texted him and asked when he would be home because his mother was a mess. He was home within 45 minutes I think. Needless to say when he came in, I sobbed...not just cried. Told him how bad he hurt his dad and I. Asked what we had ever done to deserve such disrespect and cruelty.

I've printed out several home listings for him to check out and he has. Says he will be calling to schedule a time to see the ones he was most impressed with. They are not going to be the best of course, he can't afford the best, but he can work on it and make it his own. We didn't start out with a nice home either so why should he.

He does understand that we have house rules and that they must be followed. We haven't seen his GF and I did tell him that since I'm starting spring break (vacation) tomorrow I didn't want to see her at the house. That they can just stay in town for dates. I don't want to deal with her while I'm off.

Diana and I spoke for over an hour and she is a very wise, Christian woman and a friend I just don't ever want to be without. She gave me wonderful advice and listened. I really believe we're going to be okay here....

[DianaB]

Oh, Janet, I'm so glad that our talk helped. You give me too much credit. I raised my kids and I will say, not perfectly.......just ask them!!

I hope with all of my heart that things work out for the best and that Ricky will make wise decisions for now.....and his future!! I'm praying!!

[Shada]

I wish I had words of advice and wisdom to share.... but...
You are a amazing mother. You have shown him love and acceptance. You have always had his back. You still do. I pray he comes to realize that you have his best interest at heart. Stay strong Janet. Stay firm.
But also let him know how much you love him.

Hopefully he will give this time. To think. To respond to what her needs are. To know he is just a way out for her.. a means to use and let him take care of her.. I am sure if he can't rescue her quickly, she will find another.
Does she work? Is she trying to improve her lot in life? Or is she just looking for someone to take care of her?

I feel so bad for you... for Ricky too. The poor kid will probably come out of this with a broken heart. But hopefully a little wiser too. My prayers are with you all.