I Am So Sad

[Mandy]

Janet, why don't you send her a nice bunch of flowers for Christmas with a card, just to let her know you thinking of her.
Maybe she's just going through a "quiet period" it happens with friends, she will find her way back to you

[khardy57]

Janet, I have a friend like that. We may not see each other for a long time because she has serious health problems, but we've been friends forever. We both know that no matter the time frame, we always pick up where we left off.

I agree with Diana, I think you should send her a "Thinking of You" card. Just to let her know that you're still on the map and that you miss her. I think it would be a very nice gesture and maybe an ice breaker.

I haven't seen my friend in a while now, but it's because I don't leave home once I get in each evening. When I go somewhere, it usually involves family. Nothing against my friend, but I find myself drawn more to my family now.

She may be going thru something similar.


Kim

[red98vett]

oh wow. I haven't had that kind of experience but I would send her a nice long letter and the card idea sounded good too or the flowers...and see what happens. Sometimes we can say alot more in a letter than we can to someones face and she'll at least READ the letter since she isn't coming to the phone. How sad for you - she sounds like she's missing out on a great friendship and that is really HER loss.....ALL THE BEST TO YOU and I hope she comes out of her shell and talks to you - that' what friends DO.

[Janet]

I am going to write a letter. I'm not going to hurry and write it, but take a few days to complete it. That way I can be sure to get all my feelings out. I always get her a Christmas present, I mean after all, she's my bestest friend in the whole world. I do like the letter idea though. Thanks ladies. Hopefully she'll be my Christmas present.

[khardy57]

Originally Posted by Janet

I am going to write a letter. I'm not going to hurry and write it, but take a few days to complete it. That way I can be sure to get all my feelings out. I always get her a Christmas present, I mean after all, she's my bestest friend in the whole world. I do like the letter idea though. Thanks ladies. Hopefully she'll be my Christmas present.

Good I think that's a great idea! I really hope it works out that you two can get together soon.

[Gina]

Janet don't take it personally as the others have said. I do to have a best friend whom I am friends with since I am 5 yrs. old so we talking 45 yrs..lol We live in different states, she in NY, I am in NJ. We speak about once a mt. sometimes we go longer. But when we do speak its like we just spoke a day ago. We have different live styles , she is divorced, raising a young daughter of 13, I have college age childrenand I am married. We get together a few times a year. We will be seeing each other over the Christmas season.. I to do wish we lived closer but this is what happens in life..

Like you mentioned that you will be writing her put the letter in a pretty card, like Diana said invite her to lunch and see what happens, maybe she is just busy with her family and since her dad died she may be feeling down, does she have a husband? If she does maybe you can get together as couples and go to dinner.. Good luck and let us know what happens.

I agreed with everyone dont take it personal. I suffer from depression and sometimes I don't feel like talking to anybody. Maybe she feels the same way. I think that the idea of the letter and card are good. That might cheer her up and hopefully she will contact you and keep in touch. Hugs to you.