What is your opinion about this statement regarding LOVE

[Miss_Sara]

it depends on the kind of person you are
before I definitly said love is a choice, in fact I still sort of feel that way.
You can't do anything you don't want to.
I think it's just that I have a lot of willpower and control over myself (and everyone else HA HA HA), so feelings have always been 2nd to decisions.

but that of course depends on the KIND of love.
I think FAMILY love is different

I mean you hear those terrible (and I"m sorry to mention) stories about kids beaten by their mothers, but when they are given the choice they go back to the mothers, when asked why, they say "because I love them!"
but idk, I have very little love towards my mother, she's the exact opposite of the people I put myself around (loud, not polite or classy, doesn't realize that certain situations call for CLASS), so I think that adds to it.
and to be honest I think my mother only loves me because she loves herself. idk if that makes sense to you but...

[RLC12345678]

I think that you definately "fall in love" with your spouse and that is why you agree to marry him, but in my opinion, it takes a conscious decision to stay in love with that person. I think that getting a divorce because you "fall out of love" with someone is a crock of poop. If more couples would make a conscious decision to CHOOSE to remain in love and really act on that choice, then there would not be such a high divorce rate. I also think that people way too often mistake lust for love.

[Lissa]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

I think that you definately "fall in love" with your spouse and that is why you agree to marry him, but in my opinion, it takes a conscious decision to stay in love with that person. I think that getting a divorce because you "fall out of love" with someone is a crock of poop. If more couples would make a conscious decision to CHOOSE to remain in love and really act on that choice, then there would not be such a high divorce rate. I also think that people way too often mistake lust for love.

There's a song called "The Seven-Fold Amen" that's running through my head after reading that. There are legitimate reasons to get a divorce, but I think that not enough people see it as the last resort after all else has failed. It's like people go into marriage with the mindset that if it doesn't work out there's always divorce. For me, he's stuck with me til death do us part.

But in reference to the original post:

Originally Posted by RCL12345678

I have often heard that "Love is a choice, not a feeling." How do you feel about this statement? Do you agree or disagree??

I've got mixed feelings, I think that Love is a feeling but you can choose whether or not to stay in love with someone. Right now I know I'm in love with my boyfriend, but I can choose whether or not I want to stay in love with him. As the other saying goes "There's a thin line between love and hate" just cross that line and the love is gone. But I do agree with Kimberley's analogy. It's difficult to explain, but when has love ever been easy to put to words?

I'm gonna get a bit sketchy here so stick with me on this despite the fact that everyone will more than likely disagree. Thus far the majority have agreed that love is a feeling and not a choice. I feel this would make a reasonable arguement for homosexuality. One of my bestfriends recently admitted to me that he's gay, and maybe that makes me biased but I don't think it's impossible for him to be in love with a man. Love is a feeling, not a choice. Of course he could choose to not stay in love with that person, but it's up to him to make that choice.